Post # 1
My fiance and I are struggling with our guest list, and I have a tricky etiquette issue on who to invite. I have two brothers who are married, and I am really close to part of one brother’s in-laws. We see these same few at all of my nieces’ and nephew’s birthday parties/celebrations, but they are quite a large family and we don’t know how to approach this. We can’t afford to invite that whole branch (and I don’t even know some of my sister-in-law’s siblings’ names), but we would like to have some of her sisters and her mother there since we see them frequently and these sisters live in the town we’re getting married in, so they might be offended if they didn’t receive an invite. Can we invite some but not all, or would it be better not to invite any? We are not planning on inviting the in-laws of my other brother, for reference.
Post # 2
You do not have to invite all of them. I invited my sister’s sister-in-law and her then fiancé, but not my sister’s brother-in-law bc we have only met him once. Hope that makes sense.:)
Post # 3
to be clear you’re wondering about inviting your brother’s wife’s siblings?
We didn’t invite the siblings of any our ILs but I don’t know the siblings of any of my ILs. I don’t think there’s an etiquette rule on this – and i think they would fall more under friends than family in some ways. While you have a familial connection, you’re not actually related.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t invite in laws just invite your siblings and their husband/wife no need to invite the inlaws if you don’t want to.
Post # 5
Ok, this post is quite confusing but I think I understand correctly– I think it would be fine to just invite the BIL’s siblings in which you and you Fiance are close to and not invite the ones that you barely know.
It hadn’t even crossed my mind until just now to consider inviting any of our IL’s siblings. Though we’ve met their sublings, we’re not close with any of them and I think they would be a little confused if we invited them because we barely know eachother.