Post # 91
Hi everyone. I actually thought I took this thread down. I should probably go back edit the first post since it was written in the wee hours of morning. All I ask is if You have questions check my responses. I have probably already answered it. I will try to answer some common ones hear. Yes I agree the proposal was close. Yes we are the oldest couple of the families and have more years in our relationship. We are more established, we sold our first home recently and are building a new one. Yes there was a reason behind moving the proposal up. My FI’s parents did not have an issue with it. I do not talk to her brother ever (literally at all) so I did not seek his permission. I have two younger sisters and would not expect their SOs to get mine. I could add a lot more detail to smear the imagine of Future Brother-In-Law and his Fiance but we want to move past it. We are going to keep our distance until we get an apology. Some may say we won’t get one, to that I say if you’re old enough to get married you’re old enough to admit being wrong. My goal in posting this thread was to make sure I hadn’t broken a major rule. I have seen a couple post that disagree with what I did and that’s fine. All of you that have offered encouragement and kind words I thank you. Feel free to keep this thread going but I probably won’t be checking it as often now. Feel free to message me if you have any questions.
Post # 92
anonymousgroom : Sorry this was my other account. I used it to post a pic of my FIs ring a few weeks back. Didnt need her to know who I was lol.
Post # 93
lovingbrideforever : Ya I was being ironic when I wrote “how many kids do they have to have before you can TTC”
“drops comments her and there that my mom could have waited to have me.“
Post # 94
I sort of get them being a little miffed that it was close on the other hand did he check with you before proposing? How did he know you hadn’t planned on doing it the day after him and he stole your time. Her crying herself to sleep is just ridiculous I’m sorry but you get one day of engagement. Think of all those women that get engaged on Christmas or Valentine’s Day and have to share the spot light with loads of others. Life’s too short just more on!
Post # 95
Whoa – they think that you should’ve waited 6-8 MONTHS? Seriously? That is ridiculous. You didn’t do anything wrong – you’re living your life and they’re living theirs, and unfortunately, they’re being immature.
Post # 97
This is so aggravating to read! I can not stand people that think they’re so important that other people must change/alter their life plans around them. A proposal engagement is a big deal and a big life event, and having to wait 6-8 months longer just to make them happy would have been ridiculous. I’m getting a hunch that his fiancé is the primary reason for their disapproval/unhappiness. She sounds like a self righteous, narcissistic brat. How dare they (she) take joy away from what should be the happiest time in your lives because the spotlight isn’t 100% on her. 😡
Post # 98
Wow, your FI’s brother sounds pathetic. How can you be so self centered that you think its ok to ruin what should be one of the happiest times in your sister’s life, just because it happens to be near to a happy time in your life? Her brother should be happy about this whole situation. You did nothing wrong at all.
Post # 99
Your FI’s sibling doesn’t own a certain period of time to herself. What an immature thing to be worked over… I can’t believe someone would actually care that her proposal was close to another person’s… Jesus Christ.
Post # 100
It sounds like getting engaged was all about being engaged and consequently Queen for that year, and Queen for the year of the wedding for Future Sister-In-Law. Otherwise what’s it all about? – Oh yes I remember, all that boring old shit about a reciprocal commitment to spend the rest of your life with each other.
During WWII, couples would snatch their weddings in the short home leave afforded the men fighting overseas: him in his uniform, her in her best suit or one borrowed from mum or friends because clothing was rationed and prioritised for the war effort. Its the marriage that’s the biggest thing, not the dress, party, or social media Likes. It’s fine to enjoy some of the princessy elements of engagements and weddings if it’s up your street and you have the time and money for it, but for some people, like Future Sister-In-Law, it seems to be everything.
When I hear a friend is engaged I’m really excited and congratulate them, but I don’t light a candle for them every day between then and their wedding. If another friend gets engaged the following week I’m equally excited proportionate to how close we are. I’m not “worn out” or bored from the previous week. She’s crazy.