(Closed) Siblings in wedding party?

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 3
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@qwirky000: Well my brother told me that my SIL wished to be a bridesmaid. She felt that out of all our family I am the one she is the closest too. My brother is an usher. At first I was a little miffed about her asking (though it was actually her just saying wistful thoughts to my bro without ever realizing he would say anything to me) but then I realized that she is my SIL and so I asked her to be a bridesmaid. My family hasn’t really accepted her yet, mostly because my brothers last marriage went so horribly so it’s almost like everyone is keeping back from her until she’s been around for a few years. I figure this is a gesture of welcoming her into the family. Now she is pregnant with my first niece and nephew and the family is still kind of weary of her, but are acting better because of that and because of my insistence that everyone gets to know her too. I would say do what makes  you happy, but it is family so keep that somewhat into consideration as well!

Post # 4
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m thinking if I only have one attendant, it’ll be my sister.


When she got married in 2002, our aunt on our dad’s side of the family was the one attendant she had. I was 16 going on 17 at the time and supposedly age alone made me ineligible for that. It may have been part of why instead of me and my sister as an attendant at our Mom and now stepdad’s wedding 11 months before that, she opted for a friend. In fact, I had no role whatsoever in Mom’s wedding. I was however, the guest book attendant  for my sister’s wedding (which I had no problem with), which was the closest I have ever come to being part of the wedding party. (Otherwise, for all the weddings I’ve ever been to, including Mom’s my status was strictly that of a guest.)

Post # 5
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@qwirky000:  If your Fiance wants her to stand up on his side, you should let her. Its his sister, he has a say, he’s trying to compromise here and I think you’re being a bit harsh putting your foot down in this instance. If you and you Fiance agreed, that would be one thing.  I don’t see how including siblings is going to mess up your plans all that much, other than a couple more people standing up with you.

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