(Closed) Siblings – marriage order

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: In my famly, I will be the ___________ sibling to get married



    Somewhere in the middle

    I'm an only child


  • Post # 92
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Muhlhauser Barn

    I’m the oldest of 6… my sister is a year & 10 months younger than me (second oldest) & she got married in June 2012. My fiance & I got engaged in September 2012 & because my parents are paying for the wedding & needed some time to replenish their savings account after my sister’s wedding & a cross-country move, we will be getting married 15 days before my sister & her husband’s 2nd anniversary. My 4 other siblings aren’t really close to getting married… 2 of them are in serious relationships, but one says she never wants to get married, she’s happy with the way their relationship is now & the other just graduated from college this summer, so he wants to figure out his place in the world before getting married… the youngest is about to start his senior year in high school so hopefully he won’t be getting married any time soon & the last one has been living in China for years & doesn’t really have an interest in settling down anytime soon.

    Post # 93
    629 posts
    Busy bee

    Only child, with no external pressures to get married. SO’s the third (of four, five including step brother), also no pressure to get married, but it’s pretty much assumed that he’ll be second to get married.

    His older sister (oldest of all) was married first exactly 8 years ago, his older brother has made it clear he’s not planning on getting married for about 5 years, his younger brother has made no indication of even wanting a relationship, however he is Chassidic Orthodox, so if he is set up with the right girl, he’ll marry quickly, and his step brother (the youngest) isn’t in a relationship, and is actually about to move to Tel Aviv for medical school.

    Post # 94
    181 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’m the oldest child of 3 and my younger sister (by 5 years) eloped last year. My younger brother (by 8 years) is still quite a few years away from getting married. 

    Fiance is quite younger (by 18 years) than his brother and sister and he’ll be the second to get married. His sister is already divorced and his brother is a confirmed bachelor. 


    Post # 95
    1097 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m the youngest in age and will be first to get married. My sister is older than I but adamant about not getting married so neither of us felt pressure that I know of.

    Post # 96
    2966 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i have 2 brothers and i’m in the middle. i was the first to get married, which i really wasn’t expecting because before my husband and i got together, i was single 99% of the time. my older brother is always dating/in a relationship with someone, so i (and other family members too) thought he’d be the first. i guess he’s just enjoying playing the field. my younger brother always said he never ever wanted to get married. he got engaged this year. wasn’t expecting that one either, haha.

    my husband has 8 siblings. he’s #6 and the youngest boy. all his siblings are married expect for an older brother and younger sister.

    Post # 97
    500 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014


    Brother 1 (29) married at 27

    Me (28) will marry at 30

    Brother 2 (27) married at 24

    Brother 3 (26) who knows



    Him (26) will marry at 28

    Sister 1 (24) married at 23

    Sister 2 (19) who know

    Post # 98
    363 posts
    Helper bee

    I have a younger brother still in HS so I hopefully will be the first in our family:). SO has an older brother who met a girl a year and a half after SO&I met. He proposed to her within their first year and they have been married a year now. His brother has his shit together haha…not that I don’t love my SO, but his brother has a well-paying job and a house for him and his wife already and they are only a year older than us. SO still lives at home. It kind of adds insult to injury that his brother’s wife’s first name is the same as mine…so she now has the exact name I would have had if SO and I got married: “Marry Jane Doe”. Awesome…I am probably not changing my name now because I don’t want the exact same fucking name as her. I was here first haha. I know our relationship is of better quality and we are more compatible, though, so I am still looking forward to marrying my best friend someday. 

    As far as pressure from family goes, my family has never mentioned anything. They just want me/us to be happy. His family knows we don’t like people to get in our business, so they haven’t mentioned anything about it to me either. Who knows if they spoke to SO about it without me, though. haha.

    I REALLY don’t like the fact that his brother’s wife has my same name..I mean it gets really annoying being referred to as “other Marry Jane” or “SO’s Marry Jane” …as if these people haven’t heard of context clues to determine who is being spoken about??? They don’t think I can figure out if they are talking about someone other than myself?  They have to call me someone’s property or “other Marry Jane”. Fucking offensive! Maybe if SO and I were first to get married, I wouldn’t have had to deal with this nonsense on top of the “waiting” because “other Marry Jane” would have had to deal with it instead-_-.

    Post # 99
    200 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I am the youngest of 3 girls and will be the last to be married. There is absolutely no pressure for me to get married! My sisters are 10 months apart (I know!) but I am 7 years younger than them. The middle sister got married first and my oldest sister was not happy at all about it and so they got married a year later. My parents paid for the weddings and after back to back weddings, my mom said she would pay me to elope! Other than that everyone tells me I’m too young to get married. I will be 25/26 when I get married and SO will be 32/33, I don’t think that’s too young. But, everyone is different 🙂

    Post # 100
    1914 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

    Oldest and first. My brother is 4 years younger than me and says he “doesn’t believe in marriage.” We’ll see what happens with that!

    Post # 101
    3823 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @mscuppycake:  Technically I have a half brother and sister and a step brother but I wasn’t raised with any of them. So for my parents, I am an only child. 

    But if you count me with the rest of them, then I’m the 3rd to get married. But neither my half brother nor my step brother had weddings. They went to the justice of the peace on their own.

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