- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
For those who do know, my FH’s family has conditions about EVERYTHINGGG. We do something good for them, they do something good for us. I swear I’ve never seen these people do anything for anyone, not even their own son, without some sort of retribution expected. Whether that be coming over for a holiday, etc.
FH and I have had to re-phrase everything about ten times before we send any emails or texts to them about our wedding and it’s really starting to sicken me. I was not raised this way and don’t understand people who do this to their own children.
Recent example… I had to reply to the question, do you want FH’s baby photos for the wedding?
Answer: Yes, it would be lovely to have them.
What I couldn’t say or I’m positive I wouldn’t have gotten them…..”we’re not doing a slideshow but I would like them anyway”
If they think something may reflect badly on them or is public they will do anything to keep up appearances. BUT… when it comes to actually doing anything with nothing in it for them, they suddenly are hard to reach and need time to think about things and never get back with us.
example: the dinner they wanted to plan at a chinese buffet that wasn’t the nicest and cost about $5 a person when they took 30+ people to a fancy restaurant for FBIL’s wedding.
(the difference= they like Future Brother-In-Law, they dislike FH and me together)
Do you think it could be they are rich and white used to getting their way?
Or is it just cultural? Or is it just them?
I don’t understand this at all.
I should think any normal family would WANT to do something to help out their only son without a criminal record( my FH). Before all of the drama started happening around our wedding I realized they were different though. They brag on family that is really quite awful and forget about the people who are good, honest and actually worth being proud of. I think before I came along, no one really told FH what a hard worker he was, how unselfish he was, etc. That was just never rewarded in this household. :/