(Closed) Sick of Family (rant, little long)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Why not just be honest with them, and tell them they are making you anxious and embarrassing you?? THey won’t know unless you tell them!!

And with your father, I woudl just say “Dad, don’t forget, I’m the one getting married, not you!”

Also, might be a good idea to figure out what you can afford with your own money, so you don’t have a dadzilla on your hands!

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@ColoradoGirl:  I bet they are excited, but yeah, I woudl defintely tell them, so you can at least put that stuff to rest until there is actually something to be excited about!

Do you think you could try the lump sum up front from your parents? Or earmark particular things that they can pay for, and pick your battle that way. If they are going to fly off the handle (and not knowing anything else about them), would it be possible to try to head it off with a simple, “I understand and appreciate the fact that you are willing to pay for the wedding, but if guys are going to act like this, I will have to respectfully decline your money so I can plan MY wedding without so much stress.”

Kind of a nip it in the bud, before it becomes an issue, or at the start of the issues

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Family can be annoying.  My family keeps bringing up weddings to me, and SO’s family does the same. So much so that i’ve made a point of avoiding them and the topic.  How can i ever answer that correctly? Ask them to take a chill pill and dont feed into it.

Post # 9
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@ColoradoGirl:  I’m with you on the family thing, although at least mine isn’t trying to plan my wedding already! (I think my mom is actually more afraid that it’s never going to happen haha).

This weekend we went to my SO’s sister’s grad party and there were a bunch of relatives/family friends that we only see once in awhile. I can’t even count how many people asked us if we were engaged or married yet. Nope, still “just” living together! We left brunch yesterday and his aunt called after us “Be sure to let me know if anything happens!” Ugh.

It’s great to have a family that is clearly supportive, but sometimes you want to say “Calm down people! It will happen when it happens and believe me, you will know!”

If we have to patient, our families should have to be patient too 🙂

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