(Closed) Sick of other people asking/making jokes! (semi-vent)

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It got really annoying for sure. I just stated facts and closed the conversation down pretty quickly. I was young when we met and just kept reminding everyone of my age and that shut them up mostly.

Post # 5
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

For my parents and their generation, they all married within a year of meeting, at most a year and a half. So for us to have dated for 2 years and not be even engaged, it was really weird to them. Not to give them excuses, but when my mom told me that, it helped… a little.

Post # 6
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63 posts
Worker bee

Sorry to hear that you are getting bugged. I think it is pretty standard, I have been getting it for about 4-5 years now, which is when I started to get the waiting fever – it comes and goes but the comments/questions dont seem to stop.. I pretty much just say “Im not sure, why dont you ask him” with a big grin 🙂

Post # 7
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1600 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

ugh, that IS annoying. I can’t believe people have the nerve to say things like that, even if they are nice and polite in every other way!

The thing is, though, you have to brush it off. Because even when you do get engaged, people will be asking you, like, 15 minutes later, “so when’s the wedding?!?!?!” If you say 6 months or less, they’ll be like “ohhhh what’s the hurry?” and shoot a not-so-subtle glance at your stomach. If you say more than a year, people will say, “ohhh why are you dragging your feet?”

And once you get married, people will be asking you when you’re going to have kids. And I’m pretty sure once the first one is born (if you choose to have one), they’ll be asking when he/she gets a little brother or sister.

Sorry, not meaning to sound negative, but this has been my experience with several situations over the past few years.

It’s SO irritating! Why can’t people mind their own business?!?!? Or at least not be all catty and judgemental when you answer? 

Post # 9
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110 posts
Blushing bee

I’m sorry your frustrated by these comments. We get them alot due to being together for almost 6 years and everyone getting married around us. I tend to take it as a complement that we seem like a lasting couple and you seem to be getting those comments too, how cute! However I’m not sitting and wishing he would propose this second (most of the time) I know we are very young and have no intention of getting married for awhile. I do have those irrational “well we could be engaged and not get married” thoughts but then your going to get more questions this time about the wedding, am I invited yada yada yada.

So I’m sorry your frustrated by the waiting game, I’m there with u sometimes, but remember you guys aren’t engaged for a reason, (age, financial status, job, ect..) and an engagement would spur more questions of this sort. Stick thru it and u know it will happen!

Post # 10
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110 posts
Blushing bee

And responding to your second question: yikes. It’s hard when you male more then he does (I do) and as much as they say they’re ok with it you know there is a part of them that feels infirior.

Maybe this is where the not engaging thing is comIng from. Maybe he wants to be making more or has an idea that u need some big ring. Just a thought. They’re not always the most logical of creatures 😛

Post # 13
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1565 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

wow… have you talked with him about what you want? have you set a timeline? I hope you dont have to wait a lot more 🙂

Post # 15
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598 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@awolfpaw:  🙁

I’m sorry that sucks! Basically no, I’m not tired of it yet, mostly because everyone stopped asking! 🙂 

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