(Closed) Sick of people asking when I'm having babies *vent*

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@dresscrazy34:  “babies just come when they want, you can’t pick the time.”



Oh my.  This just made me laugh out loud.  Seriously?  People think this?  Come on!  I say good for you for waiting until you have established a solid career for yourself.  God forbid people choose to be responsible!

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2006

Oh my gosh! People aggravate me with this baby questions!! You can’t pick the time? Seriously? A lot of these people do not understand the science that goes into making a baby. It just doesn’t happen like that. Don’t mind them.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

@dresscrazy34:  All I have to say is good for you, being all responsible about family planning!!!!!!!!!!!! Because that is awesome that you guys have decided this and are sticking to it.

Post # 7
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529 posts
Busy bee

Good for you!! And best of luck with your doctorate!

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Don’t worry… I have been married less than a month and my mother is already piping up about babies. I am the only girl, her only child married, and the youngest, so my mother is very grandbaby hungry. I feel your pain.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Oh god i know what you mean is soooo annoying, can’t they just ming their own buss…if you wanna wait 4 yrs good for you! It really is no one buss when you decide to have a kid…..is funny how when you are in a long relationship people ask when are you getting married and when you do get married then they as when are you having kids….seriously!?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

My SO and I are never having babies, so I will often get the stink eye. I have been asked, “What if you got pregnant?” which leaves me no choice but to reply that I’d have to have an abortion. Nosy people…

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I hear ya. My Fiance and I aren’t even married yet and we are getting “How soon after you get married are you wanting to TTC?” We want to right away because I will be 29 in March when we are married and we are both set in our careers and own our house already, but that’s NOT for every newlywed:) Just tell them you never want kids that will realy get them talking! hahahaha.

Post # 13
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4006 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The wedding is not until August and I’m getting this too – from my mom who told me i need to lose weight so i can get knocked up faster and from random people I work with. I was at a holiday party at work, holding my BFF’s 7 month old son, and one of the women I know casually says “by this time next year, you’ll have one”. I realize I’m 38 and we will be working oN at plan immediatley (if not pre wedding) but really?????? Can’t we get married first????

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

Funny timing…a few friend who got married a couple weeks after me are hitting their six month anniversary right now.  They told me that The Knot sent them an email saying it’s time for them to check out The Bump, their baby site.

I think a simple “we’re not ready to talk about our plans right now” can work.

 

Post # 15
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Newbee

Me and Fiance don’t want kids ever. His mother already has babie rabies, and she doesn’t even want him to marry me in the first place? It’s weird. If one more person tells me “you’ll change your mind!” I’m going to strangle them. Or even worse- the threats from his mother that she will cut us out of the will. All of our friends have kids and their lives are crap. Most of them didn’t even stay with the father. My sister has two children and she thought it would “make me change my mind” about having kids. No. It’s so annoying. I have cats, that’s good enough for me.

 

Next time someone bothers you just say “… you want to know when me and my husband plan on having UNPROTECTED SEX?! You’re gross!”

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012 - Prairie Production- Chicago (loft)

If one more person asks me Im going to shoot them. I too, am choosing to better myself by starting grad school in the next year or two…so in order to be able to afford a child I’d have to wait until I finish. Which means Ill be in my early 30s. People say thats too old… that you’ll be a better parent when you have them younger. So you want me to go on assistance cause I can’t pay for my own child? So…. you can help me!…that solves the problem! Right? Everyone thinks just because we are married (2months in) it’s time to start the family. Although I want children, my new husband and I arn’t in a position to do it without having to worry about living paycheck to paycheck…. we make less than 50k combined. Who’s going to pay for the childcare while I continue to work two jobs. I have a degree and still not settled in my career yet. Can’t people just leave us alone o we can make sure our new marriages are stable and growing strong before we add people to the population?

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