(Closed) Sick of People Asking When the Babies Are Coming? I AM!

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My Future Brother-In-Law and his wife started trying right after their wedding last year and had the baby in July.  Of course when we went to see the baby and held him, everyone kept saying “So when are you guys going to start trying? Another three to five years? Why so long?” Probably so long because we’re not married yet, we want to start careers, and I want to go to grad school at least part of the way through before getting pregnant.  And we’re 22 so I don’t see that it needs to be rushed.  

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i totally understand… if i got a dollar for every time i heard “so u know what’s next? – babies!” “when r u guys gona have kids” “i heard ur preggers”–>(my one friend likes to joke about this all the time).

we’ve been married a lil over a month and our close family/friends know that we are both working full time and in grad schools… when would we even have the time!? we won’t be TTC until 3 years from now.  whenever anyone asks now, i just say.. “not right now” and smile

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

No, I’ve never really asked anyone this either.  I also get “You look like you want one of your own and like you’ll be a natural mother”.  

Post # 7
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1927 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We’re not even engaged (yet) and people are bugging us about babies. A few days ago SO’s mother told us that she still has her baby rocking chairs and she hopes to use them soon. Then the next morning my mom calls and tells me that she decided my life *I will have babies in 2 years so she will be retired and she can watch them while I am at work.*

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m in the same boat.  it definitely bothers me that people also question why you want to take your time before having kids.  or comment that by that point you’ll be close to 30 and its “better” to have them before then.

I also feel that when people ask that, they don’t even consider, maybe couples would like to be childless and not have any kids! 

personally i am going through some me time to figure out if i’d really like to have my own kids.  i don’t want to have kids because everyone thinks thats what you should do or because the other couples around you are having them.  i also think there’s a difference between liking kids in general and wanting your own kids.

Post # 10
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171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am right there with you! Plus it doesn’t help that DH’s brothers and sisters all have kids, and we are the only ones who don’t. And we are the only ones married. However even my own mother has jumped on that band wagon of being a grandmother, she even called Darling Husband to ask him about it, becasue she knows my answer has been the same for the past 4 years.

Also one of my best friends works for the same company as me, and the other day my boss was asking her about when she thinks we’ll start having kids. lol

Post # 12
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548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

If you think that’s bad, how about people trying to convince me I’m still going to want and will have kids….and I’ve had a HYSTERECTOMY and the Fiance has been snipped!

Post # 14
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548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@PrncssDva….I know right!!!  Makes me wonder if some people really don’t know what a hysterectomy is….tho my mom did say, “well you still have your ovaries, right?”  I was just like…don’t even think about it.  I’m sorry, I want nothing to do with kids and have been saying that since I was 12…I’m now 28 lol.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think we live in a culture now where people wait until they’re ready to start a family to finally get married, so others just assume that’s on your mind since you tied the knot. I still kind of find it offensive when people ask me about our reproduction plans because that’s probably the most personal and private decision two people will ever make. Plus the chances of losing the baby are so high, they’re skating on thin ice asking a couple before they’ve made an ‘announcement’.

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