- 6 days ago
Back again with a follow up to my last thread asking about a job offer I turned down in TN a couple of years ago. Well, turns out I did not get that particular job, but I was contacted about a week later and asked to interview for a different position – a higher level position. The interview did not go particularly well, and right off the bat they asked why I turned down the offer, was I serious about moving, etc etc. I thought the interview was the nail in the coffin and felt equal parts relief to have it resolved, and horror over the horrible interview.
Fast forward to yesterday. I got an offer. I should be ecstatic – I have been looking for a new gig for close to 1.5 years. But all I feel is sick to my stomach. And I can’t tell if it’s a gut reaction, or if it’s a normal reaction to such a huge change. I’d be moving from NYC to TN.
Things that have been crossing my mind:
How will I find another apartment that I love as much as my current one? I’m in my early 30s already – how to I make new friends and find a tribe? This is not the job I applied for and I don’t feel qualified. Will I hate TN long term? What if I hate the job? If this is a good thing, why do I feel sick to my stomach? It’s a constant loop. I should add I work in a niche market and TN has a plethora of opportunities for my line of work.
The job is more money, better title, great benefits, and would allow me to have a better commute and pay off my student loan 5 years earlier. So what’s wrong with me? Is this a normal feeling and does anyone have tips for making a decision like this / stories about how it all turned out ok. Advice is appreciated!