(Closed) Sigh – another venue change, one week before the wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@wahine777:  how about you say hell no? I mean… No thank you. Your wedding is in a week. It’s been decided. And your house sounds just lovely.

Post # 5
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Why don’t you talk to them about how much you would prefer it as your house, I’m sure they’ll understand?  I don’t know why it would be more work at your place then at theirs.

Post # 6
723 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Can you ask the specific reasons that they feel it would be too much work to have it at your house? Maybe you can come up with ways to creatively mitigate these factors. If they’re worried about travelling from their house to yours, what about putting them up at your house for the days leading up to the wedding, or enlisting a handful of other friends to help them, etc.?

Post # 7
12242 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That really stinks! I’m so sorry!

Post # 8
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

You should tell them what you told us “We have family gatherings all the time at their house, so it doesn’t really feel very special.” Maybe you could find out which part is too hard and try and find someone else who could help?

Post # 9
154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m sorry. I can really sympathize as I’m in a similar boat. I understand not wanting to fight about it. I’m too tired for that right now too.  BUT… I think you should at least talk this out. Tell them how disappointed you feel. There’s got to be some way you can make your home work. Hugs!

Post # 10
2050 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@wahine777:  Dude. No way. Tell them thanks for the concern and you appreciate the offer but as nicely as you can put it, YOU and Fiance call the shots on where your wedding is held, not them. If they can’t help, hire some helpers or recruit other friends or family members. I’m sure if you put your heads together you can delegate responsiblities around so that no one has too much to do, and so others are involved to ligthen the load. Have it at your home! It sounds like you would be happiest there, it will be most special there, and you need to be happy on your wedding day. If anyone has a problem with that, have them contact me and I’ll set them straight. 😉

Post # 11
343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Awww, I feel so sorry for you. Darn, why can’t they understand that if you had wanted the wedding to take place at their house, I’m sure you have mentionned in before.  This is your wedding and as much as I know how delicate it is to talk to step-children and their significant other, try to talk to them and to let them know how important it is that the wedding take place at your house which sounds absolutely beautiful. If you are not feeling right about the wedding being at their place and you still go ahead with it just  because you don’t want to hurt their feelings, you will regret not speaking up in the long run. My mom always said we can tell people anything. Its the way we tell them  that’s important.


Good luck and let us know what happens.


At least you have a step child who’s willing to help. My step daughter had agreed to hold our small  wedding ceremony and reception at her house. So I went out and bought all the decorations, the candles, the wedding cake knife, you name it, I bought it, even the guestbook. Then, last thursday night she told her father the wedding couldn’t happen at her house unless we all not wear shoes!!!! She’s afraid we’re going to damage her hardwood floor if we wear shoes! I’m so upset at her and hurt. I’ve spent hundreds of dollars on the decorations thinking I wouldn’t have to pay for another venue and now I’m stuck with all these decorations and things and I don’t even know if they will go with what other venue I find. I have already booked the caterer and gave a down deposit and chose the menu. There is no way, for safety reasons, that the tuxedo dressed servers are going to want to serve the guests in their socks!  She accepted to hold our wedding at her house a good two months ago. You’d think she would have mentionned the stupid shoe thing earlier!!!

Post # 12
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@wahine777:  Really, one week before the wedding? ONE WEEK? I would tell them thank you but hell no. 


Post # 13
4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

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@mylittleviolett:  <— what she said

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