Post # 1
Yes, I know there are way worse problems in the world. But DH and I bought a house and we have to move soon. The problem is…I don’t like the house. The style is not me at all. It’s a very boring 60s era dull country midwest style of house that makes me feel like I’m dying inside.
Why did we buy it? Well, it’s in the neighborhood we want to be in. It’s hard to get into that ‘hood, unless someone dies (seriously, there are people who have lived there for 30+ years and the average age in the neighborhood is probably around 65). Currently, DH and I are in separate apartments (we didn’t live together before getting married). We don’t want to live this way forever, so we had to find a house soon. We found this one and it suits our needs, so we bought it.
Well, I shouldn’t complain because the house is a good house and in great shape, good price, etc etc. But I just feel so depressed about moving in there. I hate the architectural style. I know that new paint and new decor can work wonders on an interior, but there is only so much we can do, short of ripping out the entire kitchen and bathroom, redoing all the floors, etc. We don’t have money for that, so for now, I have to live with a hideous ’80s era blue bathroom. And tacky 70s era den. And not tacky in a fun retro way, but tacky in a hideous way that is painful to look at.
To add insult to injury, we visited some friends in their new house and their place is phenomenal. The kitchen is to die for. It just made me hate our house even more. 🙁
Please don’t bash me and give me the “well why did you buy it then” reply. I think it’s called compromise, right? Isn’t that what I’m supposed to be doing in married life? Ugh.
Post # 3
That’s never a good feeling – I’ve had it about apartments, but a house that you’ve bought and is yours is a whole other ballgame, I’m certain.
I will say that it’s true, while you can’t change the architectural style of course, working on the interior WILL work wonders. I’ve never been a firm believer in what can be done with paint and some decorations, but I watched my Mother-In-Law buy the most hideous 80s style condo (weird fake wood flooring, awful wall colours, a really ugly fiber-board kitchen and bathroom) and transform the heck out of it. She *is* an interior designer and has a lot of disposable income, so obviously it’s different with regular people who aren’t necessarily super into DIY or made of money, but it can be done, even with few resources.
I know what she told me and I think what the general consensus is when you’re starting from a less than ideal starting point, is that you should pick one room and fix it up start to finish. Like maybe it’s your 70’s tacky bathroom – maybe you can think of all the things you could do to improve it (paint! I painted my bathroom and even just *that* made it so much less awful) and get started.
Post # 4
Have you been inside the house since the previous owners took out all their stuff? When my parents moved out of the house I grew up in, I barely recognized it, and I spent my entire childhood there!
Remember this: if it wasn’t someone ugly, you probably wouldn’t have been able to buy it, right? Someone else would have snatched it up for a higher price. So think about how awesome it’s going to be when you dress it up over time. And if all else fails, you can host a really awesome 70s party at some point 🙂
Post # 5
If you havent started its time to start a pinterest board for each room and DIY items you can do for them at an affordable cost.
As others have said, its amazing what paint can do, or really large art installations, or rugs etc
Post # 6
We bought a house that the previous owners were in the process of re-doing so there a few nice rooms and a lot of 70s/80s stuff that I dislike.
So far we have made it a bit better by painting, a bright fun color goes a long way toward feeling like you don’t hate the space. I try to buy a few things that I love, like a new entry way carpet that matches the hideously wrong carpet on the stairs. So it looks less out of place now. And my attention is drawn to the new carpet not the surroundings.
It helps to carve out a little space for yourself, like putting a favorite chair in a corner and making yourself a little readng nook, or something, so your attention just goes to this one space and not things you hate.
I have friends that have perfect, brand new houses that are just lovely and it is really really hard not to compare! But your house will get there eventually. hopefully!
Post # 7
Ok, get ready for this. DH bought the house we live in shortly after we began dating. I was not involved in the house hunting and didn’t see the place before he closed. In short, it’s pretty awful.
A few particularly nasty features:
- 70’s wood paneling in part of the living room. The rest of the living room appears to be done in Masonite, with trim covering the seams and dividing the walls in a very awkward and ugly way.
- Creepy green painted shower in the basement. DH calls it the Prison Shower and believes it is the highlight of any house tour for guests.
- Lead paint on the foundation and possibly downstairs windows
- Awkward room layouts, including long, narrow rooms and a central room that consists of a refrigerator and doorways to all other parts of the house. Virtually no wall space. Just doorways and a large window into the living room, so we can enjoy the view of the fridge from our couch.
- The “kitchen” is the size of a large closet. It contains a sink, stove and microwave as old as I am and a couple of cabinets, which smell terrible inside and I can’t figure out why. There is very little storage space and basically no usable counter space. Did I mention it’s done in shades of pink and mint green?
Feel better?? 🙂
Post # 8
Cheer up, its all aesthetic and even if its not your dream home or (even close), its normal for first time homebuyers to not have their “perfect” first house. Its not like you and your DH are going to live here for the rest of your life….its just your first house, so just keep that in mind. Like previous posters mention, once your furniture and decorations are set up, and with a little bit of touch ups here and there, it will feel better.
I know you mention you don’t have the money to renovate or change things around, but a few cans of paint isnt going to break the budget and will do wonders for that blue bathroom you mentioned.
Our first home was buuuttt ugly inside – built in the 40’s and last updated in the early 80’s, it was totally outdated. We slowly, over the first year here, changed out the floors (installed beautiful hardwood floors and repainted all the walls. We are planning to re-do our bathrooms (they are ugly too) and work our way around to the kitchen last.
The point is, you may not have bought a beautiful jewel, but it has hope to be that diamond in the rough, and that has potential (thats the key word). Location, pricing, and a house with good bones and no issues, really are key factors, all the other stuff is easily fixed once you start saving up.
Welcome to homeownership and don’t frett it will all work out. 🙂