- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
So my mom is overseas so we can only talk by Skype or email, both of which make us prone to misunderstandings. And she can’t be very involved, which I think hurts her. But still, she is trying to seize the bit between her teeth and get serious control over the wedding. Frustrating, since I think I’m being ultra considerate of my guests and not doing anything crazy (I know my family almost as well as she does, afterall!). But she can’t seem to understand that I not only have to accommodate my family, but FI’s family, and our friends, too. Not to mention, this is my wedding, so if people aren’t happy, it won’t reflect on her!!
The latest email that has me so tied up in knots: “Please understand that if all my family and Dad’s family are coming, it is important to feed them and shelter them well. If you were getting married more than once, that would be a different matter. I did respect my Mother’s feelings and was happier for it.” There was more on this vein (if you don’t spend enough you’ll be eating crackers and cheez whiz, etc) but that was the crux of it.
Yeah, never thought of feeding my guests well! Wasn’t #2 on my priority list after ‘having a meaningful ceremony’! I listened to my mom so you better do the same?! Way to play on my dearly-missed grandma!
Aaaaaarg. Thanks for listening, bees.