(Closed) *Sigh* Same old Story………

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m sorry that you are going through this.

If getting married is very important to you, I’d suggest setting an internal deadline and sticking to it.  Don’t threaten to leave and then not follow through.  I’m sure you have heard this before, but your parner is getting someone to help raise his son and live with him, so he doesn’t have much incentive to marry you… a lot of times guys like to keep the status quo.  Now that he knows you are serious and you have talked about your feelings on the subject, wait for a while and see what happens.  When your internal deadline rolls around, if there has been no proposal, you owe it to yourself to leave and find someone who shares your goals and values.

Good luck 🙂

Post # 4
Member
1278 posts
Bumble bee

Ouch!  I agree with Angela83.  Set an internal deadline since the ball is in his court.  Don’t let anyone waste your time!  Oh and let your word be immaculate or as they say in the bible let your yes mean yes and your no…..no! 

Keep us posted and good luck!

Post # 5
Member
1032 posts
Bumble bee

oh my goodness i am so sorry! I think the above two posts are right, its deadline time. You are obviously a patient and loving woman who any man would be lucky to have, don’t waste your time on someone who’ll just drag his feet forever.

Oh and if he does ask, I suggest you discuss a date pretty fast so you dont end up being engaged for another 7 years…

Post # 6
Member
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

agree with the others but also have a comment, totally a personal decision but mayeb you should have a serious face to face convo about this instead of just the email you sent? I know with my SO tone and connotation usually gets wildly mixed up with any electronic conversations.

Post # 8
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145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Good luck and hugs to you !

The only thing I can offer is what I would do because I am not only impatient, I have a temper and I fully believe someone should SHOW you they love you and not just tell you. I would tell him you are going to visit your mom and uncle BY YOURSELF. That you REALLY need time alone to “think about things” and you will discuss things when you get back. I would then not call or text or whatever until he at least calls or texts you first. It sounds like he thinks he has control over you. Take back control ! Please take care…We’re here for you.

Post # 10
Member
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You’re the spoiled one when you moved to be with HIM and take care of him and his child?

No, no, this boy has got to learn that you will not be taken advantage of 🙁

Post # 12
Member
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Well, my fiance and I met online too. I had to sift through a whole wack of losers before FI finally found me. So I know what it is to meet that way and you went out of your way to move for your man. He should step up to the plate  and, like, NOW !! PM me if you want, k?

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