Post # 1
I was so excited last weekend when MOH and I finally hashed out a date for her to go dress shopping a whopping 12 days before the wedding. Granted, I am just have a picnic wedding so she doesn’t need to find something extravagant but she has continuely put off buying a dress because she feels fat and wanted to lose weight for my wedding. I told her look it is doubtful that you are going to lose much weight in 2 weeks. So we chose to go this Sunday.
Let me also say that I am a planner by nature. I hate waiting to do stuff last minute and she is the opposite. I also knew I would be busy the few weeks before my wedding because my mom is getting married this weekend and we are helping her move and doing the final preparations for my wedding.
Anyways, we found out she and her kiddos got the Hand, Feet and Mouth virus which causes high temps, sores in and around mouth, feet and hands. Even if she were to feel better by Sunday, I don’t feel comfortable being around someone who was so sick this week. I do not want to have sores on my mouth or feel like crap for my wedding!!! So I will be canceling this dress shopping event and just hope that she gets a freaking dress without me.
I am just irriated because she could have done this months ago and now I have to be stressed because of her actions. I will not let her know I am irriated and I will just tell her calmly that I don’t feel comforable being around her with her being sick and that she will have to go dress shopping alone.
I’m also a little terrified that I will get it from her when we went out last Friday because she had used my lighter while out and one of her kids already had the fever and she said she had mouth sores in her mouth. 🙁
Post # 3
Relax and ask the planner in you to take a little vacation. Since you’ve already decided that there’s no elaborate dress required for your picnic wedding, it shouldn’t take your MoH more than an afternoon at the local mall to find something that she feels happy in and fits in with your theme. It’s really hard to feel like things are not in our control, especially this close to your wedding, so it’s perfectly normal to feel irritated. But try not to let it get to you. She’s a grown woman; she’s been buying clothes for her little ones for years and for herself for even longer. She’ll show up for the wedding properly dressed, I’m sure!
Post # 4
Fishbone, I sure hope so. I have went shopping with her to find a simple shirt. It took all day long for her to find something that she didn’t feel fat in. She wore the shirt once and it has not seen the light of day since. She also has a different type of style than I do. I am much more conservative than she is.
All I can do at this point is to hope for the best!
Post # 5
Yes, and being stressed about something you cannot change will do your immune system no favors if you did in fact get exposed to a virus and it has to try to fight it off. I know it’s easier said than done, but try to just roll with it.
Post # 6
If the world falls apart is there anything in her closet which you would be ok with her wearring? I like having a plan B as I am a planner as well. When my inlaws said they were going to buy a dress for my flower girl I nearly flipped since I had bought one about 8 months earlier and they had it in her closet. Dont stress out too much its not worth it. Im not sure how long it takes the illness to present itself but I think you would know by now and just stay clean and wash your hands and youll be fine.
Post # 7
Well I looked online and it says 7 days so if I am not sick by Friday I know I didn’t catch it and if I avoid her this weekend then it should run it’s course at her house and we will be safe for the wedding. Also I am doing the typical wash hands after we go to the store route because my friend said the peds office is swamped with this in my area right now.
She tends to wear spanx tshirts and short cut off jean shorts all the time. I don’t think there is anything appropriate in her closet as she never ever wears dresses and the skirts are way to short to be worn to a wedding. I love her how she is on a typical day but it is definately not my style and I think she could wear more clothes most days lol.