Post # 1
In my last post SO said that we would be engaged between the 9th and the 14th. A few days ago he told me it wasn’t happening, things came up that hindered his plan and one of those being that my dad was supposed to come visit but didn’t. SO needs to ask my father’s permission before he proposes (my family is very traditional and it would also mean a lot to me) and SO doesn’t want to do it over the phone and since my family lives 5 hours away we don’t see them often. I understand that things come up and whatnot and I understand why he wants to ask my father’s permission in person. My parent’s won’t be coming up for quite some time and we arn’t planning on going down there anytime soon either so I guess I’m just a little disappointed that it isn’t actually happening and it won’t happen for quite some time. I feel like SO keeps breaking his promises and it’s hard to believe anything he says regarding the engagement/proposal. I don’t really know where this post is going but I’ve just been really upset and a little resentful towards him the past few days and I needed an outlet to vent. I know SO is trying his hardest to make this as special and perfect as possible so I’ve been trying to just stay calm and let things pan out the way they are supposed to, and it really isn’t his fault that this has happened. Anyways, thank you ladies for reading this I’m sorry if I sort of rambled on.
Post # 3
Can he not just make the special effort to go down there himself? Seems fair.
Post # 4
I don’t mean to be rude but I think it’s a little unfair for you to say it’s not his fault but also say you feel resentful towards him, when he’s only trying to do something that would mean a lot to you.
I’m sorry he’s not proposing though.
Post # 5
@JessM10: I think you just needed to vent. I can understand why you feel resentful towards him – because he has let you down in a way but you must remember it’s not his fault. I don’t know how long ago he told you he was going to propose by the 14th, hopefully it wasn’t on the 1st.
I think you just need to try to relax and be nice to him – I’m sure he’s beating himself up enough without you doing it too (not being mean, just trying to give a fair perspective)
Post # 6
Don’t want to give you false hope, but was he maybe trying to throw you off? It’s not the 14th yet, so I’d try and be a bit hopeful? Unless you think 100% it’s not happening :/
Post # 7
@crayfish-my dad’s work schedule is really weird and hard for him to coordinate with my SO’s schedule.
@Scottish lassie– I think that is exactly what I meant. He told me back this back in the beginning of January. You are right, he is beating himself up and I need to ease up a bit. Thank you for that perspective
@AubByAub– you’re right, he is only trying to do something that would mean a lot and that’s why I feel silly for feeling resentful towards him. I think I’m just a little disappointed because I got my hopes up. He is trying so hard to make this special for me, I realize I need to cut him a break.
@flownmuse-I wish, although I don’t think so.
Post # 8
Aw poor thing, I can sympathize with you 100% ! It doesn’t mean he loves you any less or you love him any less. Everything happens for a reason so just try to keep your head up! 🙂 It will happen!
Post # 9
@JessM10: If you don’t want him to “break his promise” again (although, I have to say, it isn’t his fault your dad’s work schedule isn’t what you’d hoped/thought), you have to accept that he asks your dad for his blessing over the phone or doesn’t ask your father at all. Think about if you’d prefer he did that and continued with the proposal or postponed it and talk to him about it.