Post # 1
Yes, the usual story, right? It’ll be a tight squeeze but we might be able to make it. Fiance’s dad keeps saying “what’s wrong with having a big wedding, don’t you want people to come celebrate your special day?” Yes, of course we do, but the seating capacity is limited and we can’t go to 100 or whatever. Sigh.
Post # 3
Our space is unlimited but I’m still terrified. I’m hoping half don’t come because I have to buy them a seat and table space. Let us know how it goes.
Post # 4
I’m afraid if this too. Een though obviously its not a good idea to inviyou ore than you can afford, the majority of weddings have about 80% attendance, not 100. I’m budgeted for 85% hoping for 70 or less because it’s out of town and expensive to stay the night.. But I could end up in trouble. We will see!
Post # 5
how many people did you invite? how close are you to 100?
Post # 6
We invited about 70 and it’ll be really a tight squeeze if they all come. We were hoping for closer to 50-60 but it doesn’t look like that’s going to turn out that way.
Another pet peeve–relatives have been telling his mom that they will come, but they haven’t clicked on the RSVP yes button. Come on, how hard is it to click a freaking button? Blah.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I found that I got more nos at the end than at the beginning. People who respond quickly are those who KNOW, and August is still pretty far away. I’m surprised you are getting so many responses so early in general, but you’ll probably start getting more nos (hopefully) as people try to negotiate their schedules and find they can’t.
Post # 8
That is so good to know…
We don’t have a capacity problem either, but agree with PPs that it would sure save a ton of money if some of these people didn’t come!!
Post # 9
I’m slightly freaked out too. We budgeted for 100 because that’s what our list was, but after my mom, grandma, and stepmom added like 80 people it got huge. I’m praying that half of these people don’t want to take a ferry out to our wedding.
Post # 10
we invited 260 we are getting 184 total with 3 vendors to feed and 14 total people in bridal party.
Post # 11
Ouch. I am hoping for 150 but invited over 200. I already can cross about 30 or so people off my list though. I hope it works for you. While my venue can fit up to 250, but budget cannot and I only budgeted for 150 (plus us: me, fi and our 3 kids).
Post # 12
Venue limitt is 50, was pressure into inviting 70 (because nobody wants to come to you’re stupid wedding, but you have to invite them, just so they can say no)
So far 6 nos
Post # 13
I have gotten all yes replies so far, and sent out invites about 3 weeks ago. I agree that first replies are usually yes and the numbers should change to more nos when you get closer. I am hoping we get at least 15 more nos than we know of, will help with the budget!
Post # 14
ugh I’m terrified this will happen to us! If we go over 110 we have to pay another $2,000 + $25/plate for dinner + $15/person for cocktail hour + another $250 for another bartender + $2.50 a person for alcohol insurance + all the extra money for more favors, alcohol, cake….
Post # 15
I’m nervous too! We have limited space capacity in our venue, so it’s not like we can just add more people and suck it up in terms of cost. 🙁
Sigh…fiance’s dad keeps telling us we can have the wedding in the backyard of their house. There is no freaking way I’m getting married in a treeless backyard in the middle of 90+ degree August heat with 100% humidity and bugs biting us. NO, just no.
Post # 16
Congrats to you. In all (A list and B list), we invited about 230 and only 106 can come. I have lots of out of state family, but I didn’t realize that none of them would make the trip, and a lot of friends are busy, too. We wanted to have lots of people to celebrate, and now we’re adjusting to the other end of the spectrum.