- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
Ok so we have found the perfect little venue for our reception/ceremony…its exactly what we both wanted (and not too badly priced either).
Problem=We’re paying for the wedding ourselves and have recently come into quite a few unexpected expenses. (sigh* again) It’s pretty much impossible for us to afford this wedding now. There is just no possible way to do it without taking out loans and we’ve both decided we do NOT want to do that.
Our new plan is to only have the ceremony, maybe do cake and champagne outside in the garden after (if the venue will let us) and then invite anyone who wants to go to dinner at a nearby restaraunt (making it clear that it will NOT hosted by us).
So…I guess I need a lot of advice from you guys..Do any of you have a better idea on how to handle this situation then a little cake and champagne reception and dinner? It just seems like such a big jump from the whole package!! I know I should be thankful to even have that in this economy and in the end all that matters is that we’re married; but I don’t want to give up things like our first dance! The speeches, the bouquet and garter toss, a real cake cutting…I mean if we do the mini cake and champagne, it’s going to be outside right by the ceremony setup, no tables or anything, and in grass!
Do any of you have a similar problem? Or a different way to deal with it? Someway we can still have our first dance? Is it just too rude to invite everyone to dinner and not pay even if we make it clear?
I need help!!