(Closed) Sigh…Stags

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Would you be upset?
    Hell yes I'd be upset! Bring it up to FI : (5 votes)
    24 %
    Nah. Makes sense why he wouldn't want to volunteer that info. Bring it up in a non-threatening way : (9 votes)
    43 %
    No, I wouldn't be upset. No need to bring it up. : (7 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
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    3471 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    Since you were already uncomfortable, he probably didn’t mention it because it would only hurt the scenario– not to mention he has ZERO interest. 

    I wouldn’t bring it up– My brother and I are very close and share a lot of friends.  When my bro got married in 2008, Fiance went to the party along with many mutual friends, and there was a private stripper in the hotel room as the “entertainment”; I am STILL hearing new stories about that night (and never from FI) because he knows I’m not comfortable with the whole thing; despite trusting him completely.  So he didn’t tell me any details because he didn’t want to add to my discomfort. 

    It was also a similar deal, it was in Nevada, where prostitution is 100% legal, and after her “show” she mentioned to the guys that for an extra fee, they could get a ride.  She was turned down completely too and wasn’t bothered by it.  My best friend (who is male) was one of the guests, and apparently he was “talking shop” with the gal afterward and apparently she rarely gets any takers on that offer; that’s just not what clients for bachelor parties are looking for. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    746 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would bring it up. I think that communication and openness is really crucial, and so if you feel weirded out because he didn’t mention it to you, then you should talk to him about that. But I’m the type of person who would rather know everything (mostly just to laugh at it all together!), and I’m not a fan of my Fiance keeping things secret under the pretense of not hurting me feelings or whatever. (Also, I would feel a bit foolish/embarrassed if another dude’s girlfriend told me about something like that!)

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