Post # 1
I recently bought a small sign for the gift table that just reads “Card and Gift Table” and I was planning on putting it on the table for cards and gifts (duh). When I told my mom this, she said that it was a bit presumptuous to have a sign like that. While I can see her point, there are going to be lots of tables! Place card table, guest book table, program table, cake table, sweetheart table…and I’d like people to know which table is the gift/card table to avoid confusion and to make sure there aren’t cards spread around the venue.
So, what do you think? Sign or no sign?
Post # 3
i voted no sign. i think people will be smart enough to figure it out, once one gift is there, then everything else will follow.
but if you really want a sign, it is not going to hurt anyone.
Post # 4
I agree with the no sign thing. If you are worried about people not knowing wear to put gifts, maybe ask one of your bridesmaids or family members to be around as guests arrive to help direct them. Once a few people have placed gifts/cards on a table, the rest will follow suit.
Post # 5
@leahthehun: If you have some sort of card box, people will get it. If you want to be sure, how about a card box and one faux wrapped gift? That will say that this is the card and gift table without looking presumptuous, which I agree, a sign would be.
Post # 6
I voted yes to having a sign. I think it’s good, just to make things clear. I’ve been to weddings where they have a huge card box that makes it obvious but I went to one where there was no sign and the card/gift table was all the way in the corner. I carried around the card in my purse the whole night until somone finally pointed it out to me. I sign would have been great!
Post # 7
If you’re having a card box, that often works as a signal for people. The guest book attendents can direct someone and then it’s usually just the first few people who need to put something there and then everyone else follows.
Post # 8
I don’t think having a sign is any more presumptuous than having a gift table or a card box. I don’t see a problem with having the sign.
ETA: I don’t think you actually need the sign to prevent confusion, however, I don’t think it’s tacky.
Post # 9
I myself am thinking of having a gift table with just a card box labelled “cards”, that way if someone has a card/gift they know where to put it and aren’t putting it where the buffet will later be placed or anything.
You could almost even just have a family member (who wants to) guiding people where to put gifts when they arive if they appear to be holding onto them in confusion of where it goes.
I myself feel it is almost presumptuous to even have a card box and a table reserved for gifts, but then I remind myself that I’ve brought cards and gifts to smaller weddings than mine and when there was no clear area to leave a gift it did feel awkward.
Post # 10
I don’t like Card & Gift, but at the last wedding I attended a Card sign or a definite card box indicator would have been nice. The couple had a birdcage and it was on the escort card table. Some cardsbarebstuffed with money so I thought it was strange they used a birdcage instead of a box
You can help identify the card and gift table by placing a dummy present. People are monkey see monkeybdo. One gift will signal to guests its where theybshould place theirs too.
Post # 11
@leahthehun: Presumably your guests are not idiots and will be able to tell the difference between the empty table with a card box on it, and the one with a place setting for 2, for 10 and the one with the placecards or guest book.
I think it is unnecessary, though I don’t know if I’d go as far as to say tacky. On the heirarchy of etiquette sins, it”s pretty low, IMO.
Edited because it’s guest book , not gift book
Post # 12
I plan to use a bird cage & get wooden letters to spell “cards”… surely that should be obvious enough.
Post # 13
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@leahthehun: I used our card box to signify to people that all that other empty space on the table was where they should put their gifts! Plus, parents, grandparents, BMs and other people that are there before your other guests will put their gifts there and it’ll be pretty obvious by the time guests arrive.
Post # 14
No sign. I think it’s sort of like “gifts gifts here give me your gifts!!!” If you’re really worried that people might be confused, why not pre-wrap a small box and put it there as part of your decorating? Then other guests will see it and know that’s where gifts go.
Post # 15
I think having a card box would help to indicate that table.
Post # 16
Thanks for the advice, gals. The plan was not have a card box, but just a tray set out for the cards…but the more I think about it (especially after reading all your comments), it seems a legit card box is the way to go.