(Closed) Significant other disrespecting you to friends: How do you react?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

shea14 :  Holy moly. I’m a patient and I’ve found that I know things that doctors do not even know, and the ones who are the best doctors not only do not pout, they LISTEN to their patients and their nurses. I think this could cause problems down the line. I’m so sorry bee. I just know from experience as only being a patient how badly some doctors can be when you question their reasoning (and later I have been right several times because I know my body). Same thing with nurses, each has their role and there needs to be mutual respect not only at work but especially in the home. I can’t believe he thinks so low of nurses, they will be his saving grace when get gets his first chunk of patients in the real world.

Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

I would certainly dump him

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

He’s an asshole who has a huge ego. Him being in med school does not make him better than anyone.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee

He sounds really lame. I also vote to dump him. And when you do, get ready for him to be a giant prick and call you stupid to your face (therefor confirming that dumping him was, in fact, the correct decision.)

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

End it. If he can’t handle your intelligence and support your career goals then you are better off without him. He sounds like a complete asshole and he’s not going to change. Do you really want to have to pretend to be dumb for the rest of your life just to make him feel secure?

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

You should have stuck with your friend or at least listened to her concerns. He sounds like an asshole. I would never be OK with that, it’s so belittling and disrespectful. Also, nurses are AMAZING and you should be proud of everything you’re accomplishing. screw him. 

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Yea no. I’d be gone. Life is too short to waste on a guy like that. 

Post # 23
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Sugar Beekeeper

Awful and disrespectful. At this stage of a relationship, it would be goodbye forever for me. The ego on this guy is another red flag. Anyone that can’t handle the fact that a highly trained and skilled nurse might know one or two things more than he does is an emotional infant. 

 

Post # 24
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Busy bee

It’s not just that he was disrespecting you in that one instance, what he said was disrespecting you as a person in general. I don’t give the advice to break up with a person lightly, but I would break up with him. It’s just the cherry on top that he was completely immature and didn’t answer you for 3 days because…you bruised his over inflated ego I guess? Consider yourself lucky to leave this guy bee.

Post # 26
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Your boyfriend is a douche. First of all, he talks down to you and doesn’t value you as a person. Secondly, he’s immature which is evident by him leaving and ignoring you for three days because you asked him something he didn’t know. Thirdly, he talks shit about you behind your back and obviously doesn’t respect you.

Sorry, three strikes and you’re out. 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

shea14 :  I would react by leaving that conversation open on his computer and NEVER, EVER reply to his phone calls, emails or texts. He’ll know. 

Post # 28
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Worker bee

Beyond the obvious issue of disrespecting you behind your back, I feel this situation has been extremely indicative of a much larger problem–frankly, it sounds like he has no respect for women in general. The fact that he got so extraordinarily upset and bruised that you knew about something he didn’t, and the fact that he trash talked nurses as a whole (Im completely aware there are plenty of male nurses, but the majority are female and typically is thought of as more of a woman’s profession in history) says to me he is misogynistic and sexist. You’re only 9 months in. Break up now before you find yourself more attached or your lives get more intertwined. He won’t change, in fact, it’ll most likely get worse.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee

MrsHarryDresden :  Haha, I literally just thought to myself “I’d print that conversation out, leave it for him to find it and GHOST”

Post # 30
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Buzzing Beekeeper

shea14 :  If you’re actually married, I’d say disrespect might be forgivable maybe up to once a year or so. More often than that would be a big problem. But you’re not married yet and haven’t even been dating a year! In that scenario, he should not be even close to saying or doing something disrespectful. I’d dump him and not look back. In my opinion, respect is just as important as love and probably even more important. If the respect is not mutual, it’s just a matter of time before things get unpleasant.

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