- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
I really like the idea of our guest book being a tree where everyone signs one of the leaves. It would be framed and hung in our house and be a reminder of our family and friends that came together to witness and celebrate our wedding day.
My issue is our guest’s guests….I sound like a jerk saying this…but, I don’t want them to sign it. :/ It’s the friend and family member’s dates that I don’t know that I have the issue with. They may end up together forever and that would be great and I would be happy for them but, for now they are strangers to me. Our wedding guest list is 115, about 24 of those are guests. Some guests may not be able to come and some guests may not bring a date so the “stranger” number may be less. Do I want to see a tree that reminds me of our wedding and friends and family and 20% are people I don’t know and may never see again? I know there is no polite way of saying “Please, only sign our guest book tree if we know you personally”. The wedding that I have been to as a guests date that had these types of things I never signed them…it didn’t feel right to me to sign it when I’d never meet the couple.
Has anyone had these feelings? Did your feelings change? Should I just do a traditional guest book that will just be on a shelf and I won’t see these other people? (I sound so rude to myself right now) Is it rude to mention before the wedding to the guests to not have their dates sign? Any other thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Our wedding isn’t until September 2015, so I have plenty of time to make a decision.
Sorry for the long post (rant).
(First post so please forgive me if I’m not abbreviating things like I should be….still trying to figure some of them out)