(Closed) Signs from you s/he was going to propose?

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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1685 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I thought he was getting close to proposing… 18 months later, he did! 

But really, it depends on the guy.  Some will do it on their own. Others, like mine, need to be sat down and have the whole process discussed. He didn’t propose for so long because he thought he was supposed to drop $20K on a ring.  After we talked, I showed him what I like (“I’d rather have a bigger house than a bigger ring…”), and gave him my ideal timeline, he started working towards it.

When he decided to propose, he was acting really odd and had severe anxiety for a week before hand.  I got a little paranoid that something was wrong with our relationship… until he popped the question.

Post # 4
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

The main sign in the weeks/months before he proposed were his newfound cheapness lol. It was really weird and actually really annoying. My husband had never been cheap a day in his life, and suddenly he was suggesting subway and a walk in the park for date night? 

Post # 5
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well the main signs I picked up on from my Darling Husband was he suddenly began “casually” trying to ask my opinion on different ring styles. Then he started acting a little different.. he was really excited but didn’t have a reason. He just said he was “happy”.. that was making me a little suspicious haha. The biggest hint though, was when he left a catalog from a jewelery store sticking out of his workbag.. it only had engagement & wedding bands in it. I pretended I didn’t see it though!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Years ago: He said he thought 25/26 would be the perfect age to get engaged.

February: We moved in together and agreed on a proposal timeline of one year.

October: He needed a “final answer” on the ring (I was being indecisive about what I wanted, but he wanted to make sure I wouldn’t change my mind after he bought it).

November: He ordered a mysterious package and drove to FedEx to pick it up despite the fact that I was home all day and he could have had them deliver it. He claims it’s a Christmas present. He was adamant that I didn’t see the box it was delivered in.

December (next week actually!): We’re going on a trip for our five-year anniversary.

I could be misreading things, but my gut tells me these are the signs!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@pecanpie:  My Darling Husband did the same thing.  lol 

We were on a road trip and all a sudden he started to talk about the funny story of how his coworker brought his wife her e-ring.  It lead into him asking me what kinds of rings I’d like.  My major hint was when I texted my little sister excited that Darling Husband is talking about rings.  She slipped and texted back, “Yeah, he asked me, too.”  *face palm*  He didn’t propose until months later, though. 

I second the newfound cheapness/frugalness, too.  The Darling Husband started to spend less as he was getting ready to buy the ring.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

Oddly enough, my mom was the one who was giving me subtle signs (although she was trying not to, I’m sure). She knew for about two months, and a few weeks before the proposal she started talking about my “hypothetical future wedding” a lot more. We have always been into weddings and sometimes we’d have a week go by where we’d think about it a lot, but since it was never “real” we’d just eventually move on. So it wasn’t totally out of the blue for us to talk about my someday wedding together, but I should have picked up on the fact that it was a LOT and every time I said “Mom, it’s not going to happen for AWHILE, soooo” she would laugh and go “ohh… yeah…. I know….”

I had no clue it was coming from my Fiance, but the night of he was totally doing some slightly out of character things for him, and I was just being oblivious. Like he wanted to dress up. His idea of dressing up is nice jeans and a black polo with camo, yes, camo, side panels and collar.

Post # 11
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11357 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Well, my Darling Husband and I are both older, and we were both on eHarmony specifically seeking to connect with someone who shared our strong faith, with whom we were compatible and to whom we were attracted, and who wanted to pursue a marriage relationship.  We lived in different states and had crazy busy schedules, so, from the very beginning, we both knew that it would be pointless to even begin dating if we didn’t think that the relationship could  lead to marriage.  Given this, there was very little question that, if we both chose to make the effort to see each other after our first or second dates, the expectation was that the relationship was headed toward marriage. 

DH pursued me pretty strongly from the beginning; it was I who was responsible for holding back the timeline.  He told me very early on that I was the one and that he was going to propose.  However, I told him that he was not “allowed” to propose until I decided I would be ready to say yes. Knowing that this was the path we were on, we even went ring shopping before I reached that point, just so he would know what I liked.  Once I decided I was sure he was the one, I told him that the timing was now up to him and God. DH proposed about six weeks later, after we finalized my e-ring and wedding band selections and my e-ring was finished. Although I knew the proposal was forthcoming, the timing, location, and method of the proposal were complete surprises! He did a fantastic job!!

 

Post # 13
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925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

When he REALLY started getting serious about the timeline and getting our house. We got the house and got engaged within a week of each other. I could also tell by how when we talked about engagment he seemed much more serious. Oh, and then we went ring shopping and that really gave it away 🙂

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

He kept mentioning that he wanted to marry me, so that was a great sign. Then he started pulling up websites for jewelers to look at e-rings with me. Then he asked if I wanted to go look at rings and try them on with him, which was a HUGE sign haha. I knew he picked up the ring about a week before he proposed (we were going on vacation together) because he said he had to run an errand and he wouldn’t tell me what it was. He wasn’t too sneaky haha.

Post # 16
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3000 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@CorgiTales:  hmmmmmm interesting….my guy has been SOOO stingy and a little controlling over our money and has been weirdly moving money around from one account to the next??  (we share our accounts).  Everytime I want to buy something he is like….let’s wait until after Christmas, let’s try and save, let’s think about it,  bla bla bla.  I have been getting annoyed and slightly mad about it cause I’m like….I WILL NOT have a man control what I spend.  BUT…I think he bought the ring a few weeks ago so this would make sense…maybe I was just too dumb to realize!

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