Post # 1
Hi everyone. I’ve been dating my guy for just about two and a half years. I know he’s the one and have since pretty early in the relationship. Lately he’s showing some signs I think he might actually propose but I don’t know if they’re signs or just me being crazy obsessed with weddings. We don’t yet live together only because he’s at home saving to go get his masters next fall but we plan on moving in together then. Lately he’s been a lot more loving, a lot more thoughtful, he’s been talking about children and the future more, and he’s taking me on a ‘surprise’ dinner next week which he’s never done before. He doesn’t need to save for a ring because he inherited his grandmothers but he’s always been very money-conscientious.
I’m just wondering what the signs were for all of you engaged or married people that your significant other was going to propose.
Post # 3
I thought he was getting close to proposing… 18 months later, he did!
But really, it depends on the guy. Some will do it on their own. Others, like mine, need to be sat down and have the whole process discussed. He didn’t propose for so long because he thought he was supposed to drop $20K on a ring. After we talked, I showed him what I like (“I’d rather have a bigger house than a bigger ring…”), and gave him my ideal timeline, he started working towards it.
When he decided to propose, he was acting really odd and had severe anxiety for a week before hand. I got a little paranoid that something was wrong with our relationship… until he popped the question.
Post # 4
The main sign in the weeks/months before he proposed were his newfound cheapness lol. It was really weird and actually really annoying. My husband had never been cheap a day in his life, and suddenly he was suggesting subway and a walk in the park for date night?
Post # 5
Well the main signs I picked up on from my Darling Husband was he suddenly began “casually” trying to ask my opinion on different ring styles. Then he started acting a little different.. he was really excited but didn’t have a reason. He just said he was “happy”.. that was making me a little suspicious haha. The biggest hint though, was when he left a catalog from a jewelery store sticking out of his workbag.. it only had engagement & wedding bands in it. I pretended I didn’t see it though!
Post # 6
Thanks! @BeachBride2014, I guess I shouldn’t depend too much on his proposing soon! He’s just been acting so different that I’ve been looking at a lot of wedding sites. @CorgiTales, thanks for your input too. That’s a really good sign! I’ve never found my bf to be cheap but I’ve never seen him frivolously spend either.
Post # 7
@pecanpie: I wish my boyfriend was as obvious as yours was. This is driving me crazy. How long did it take for him to propose after you saw the catalog?
Post # 8
Years ago: He said he thought 25/26 would be the perfect age to get engaged.
February: We moved in together and agreed on a proposal timeline of one year.
October: He needed a “final answer” on the ring (I was being indecisive about what I wanted, but he wanted to make sure I wouldn’t change my mind after he bought it).
November: He ordered a mysterious package and drove to FedEx to pick it up despite the fact that I was home all day and he could have had them deliver it. He claims it’s a Christmas present. He was adamant that I didn’t see the box it was delivered in.
December (next week actually!): We’re going on a trip for our five-year anniversary.
I could be misreading things, but my gut tells me these are the signs!
Post # 9
@pecanpie: My Darling Husband did the same thing. lol
We were on a road trip and all a sudden he started to talk about the funny story of how his coworker brought his wife her e-ring. It lead into him asking me what kinds of rings I’d like. My major hint was when I texted my little sister excited that Darling Husband is talking about rings. She slipped and texted back, “Yeah, he asked me, too.” *face palm* He didn’t propose until months later, though.
I second the newfound cheapness/frugalness, too. The Darling Husband started to spend less as he was getting ready to buy the ring.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Oddly enough, my mom was the one who was giving me subtle signs (although she was trying not to, I’m sure). She knew for about two months, and a few weeks before the proposal she started talking about my “hypothetical future wedding” a lot more. We have always been into weddings and sometimes we’d have a week go by where we’d think about it a lot, but since it was never “real” we’d just eventually move on. So it wasn’t totally out of the blue for us to talk about my someday wedding together, but I should have picked up on the fact that it was a LOT and every time I said “Mom, it’s not going to happen for AWHILE, soooo” she would laugh and go “ohh… yeah…. I know….”
I had no clue it was coming from my Fiance, but the night of he was totally doing some slightly out of character things for him, and I was just being oblivious. Like he wanted to dress up. His idea of dressing up is nice jeans and a black polo with camo, yes, camo, side panels and collar.
Post # 11
Well, my Darling Husband and I are both older, and we were both on eHarmony specifically seeking to connect with someone who shared our strong faith, with whom we were compatible and to whom we were attracted, and who wanted to pursue a marriage relationship. We lived in different states and had crazy busy schedules, so, from the very beginning, we both knew that it would be pointless to even begin dating if we didn’t think that the relationship could lead to marriage. Given this, there was very little question that, if we both chose to make the effort to see each other after our first or second dates, the expectation was that the relationship was headed toward marriage.
DH pursued me pretty strongly from the beginning; it was I who was responsible for holding back the timeline. He told me very early on that I was the one and that he was going to propose. However, I told him that he was not “allowed” to propose until I decided I would be ready to say yes. Knowing that this was the path we were on, we even went ring shopping before I reached that point, just so he would know what I liked. Once I decided I was sure he was the one, I told him that the timing was now up to him and God. DH proposed about six weeks later, after we finalized my e-ring and wedding band selections and my e-ring was finished. Although I knew the proposal was forthcoming, the timing, location, and method of the proposal were complete surprises! He did a fantastic job!!
Post # 12
Thanks everyone! Really good to read all of these so far! Keep them coming 🙂
Post # 13
When he REALLY started getting serious about the timeline and getting our house. We got the house and got engaged within a week of each other. I could also tell by how when we talked about engagment he seemed much more serious. Oh, and then we went ring shopping and that really gave it away 🙂
Post # 14
He kept mentioning that he wanted to marry me, so that was a great sign. Then he started pulling up websites for jewelers to look at e-rings with me. Then he asked if I wanted to go look at rings and try them on with him, which was a HUGE sign haha. I knew he picked up the ring about a week before he proposed (we were going on vacation together) because he said he had to run an errand and he wouldn’t tell me what it was. He wasn’t too sneaky haha.
Post # 15
The other thing that makes me think he might be at the very least considering proposing is he’s talking a lot more about it. The other day he told me a dream he had about proposing to me, he keeps making jokes like “If I proposed right now what would you say?”. He said a few months ago to his mom I was the one and he’d marry me someday. He’s hard to read because he has never been very serious or mature about the way he goes about our relationship, he hints at things and doesn’t talk seriously about them until they happen.
Post # 16
@CorgiTales: hmmmmmm interesting….my guy has been SOOO stingy and a little controlling over our money and has been weirdly moving money around from one account to the next?? (we share our accounts). Everytime I want to buy something he is like….let’s wait until after Christmas, let’s try and save, let’s think about it, bla bla bla. I have been getting annoyed and slightly mad about it cause I’m like….I WILL NOT have a man control what I spend. BUT…I think he bought the ring a few weeks ago so this would make sense…maybe I was just too dumb to realize!