Post # 16
I had absolutely no idea it was coming. Well, I knew he was going to propose within 6 months because I told him he had to wait 1-1.5 years, but I had no idea he was going to do it on the trip he did it on. And he’d apparently told everyone at work and my sister (who’s my best friend) 6 months prior lol.
In hindsight I now know that his excessive nervousness and anxiety was partly because of the proposal, but he’s a nervous traveller so I’d just chalked it up to that.
Post # 17
- Wedding: October 2016 - Montego Bay, Jamaica
My DH kept bringing up how he wanted to do a bonfire at the beach because “isn’t that what you’ve been wanting to do?” he would say to me. After him bringing that up like 3 more times and us finally planning it I was catching on that something was up. He was totally normal otherwise. It wasn’t til the actual day of that he became very, very noticeably sweet and nervous.
Post # 18
My fiancé would be positively giddy and I caught him staring and smiling at me in a very loving way in the weeks prior. We had a trip planned and I had a strong gut feeling but I was none the wiser to his actual planning besides a talk several months before when he asked if I wanted a ring (the religion he was raised in doesn’t typically do jewelry but he likes it and wanted to know my stance). He offhandedly asked me my ring size during a a tv show when the topic came up and I didn’t know my size! Other clues, he unconsciously played with my hands and fingers frequently while watching a show or driving. He was extra affectionate physically with hugs and cuddles and he verbally expressed how deeply he cared for me way more than normal. He’s quite affectionate normally but this was hyper drive!
Post # 19
I was absolutely sure it wasn’t happening in the next couple of weeks and I legit told my bestfriend: there is no way he could have bought the ring without me knowing. I know where he is all the time, and I know every place in this house, he couldn’t hide it.
Welllllllllll he had bought the ring already and I had no idea!!! He was as cool as a cucumber, except maybe right before proposing, when he wouldn’t leave his backpack with me even for a minute!
Post # 20
no idea whatsoever…no clues, no signs, no overtly lovingness, nothing haha infact when he did propose I thought we were justhaving a general conversation cos I really didn’t expect it at the time (we had talked all the way through our relationship about marriage so I knew one day it would happen)
Post # 21
As someone who is proposing in less than two weeks, I honestly don’t think so. I’ve know for over two months when I’m going do it, and where we’re going to be, have the ring safely hidden at a trusted family member’s house, and made sure that the money came from a source my girlfriend won’t notice it (we live together and she does most of my banking for me).
If anything, over the two months I’ve been firmed up on my plan, the only thing I’ve done is possibly worked harder to suggest the timeline is much further off than it is.
Post # 22
A few weeks before he proposed, my fiance asked me my ring size. He disguised it by saying his Mom found a bunch of old rings and wanted to know if they’d fit me. I was suspicious but I didn’t want to get my hopes up. Two days before he proposed he was looking at me weird, but he had just told me about his parents re-homing one of their dogs and I assumed he was making sure I was okay (I LOVE dogs). Turns out the ring had arrived that day. I had no real idea until he was getting down on one knee though.
Post # 23
I apologize for the very late update. He did not propose – and I am okay with it.
I have a story to share that may leave people thinking “ooh! …awkward”; however, I believe it is quite cute!
By the last day in Italy I had accepted that a proposal was not going to happen during our trip. I just didn’t “feel” like it was going to happen. I accepted the following. Several days prior to the last day, my SO said he was going to organize the last day of our trip. On the day of he took me to a book shop where there were handcrafted photo albums by local artisans. He stated “hmm… none of these have enough pages.” I asked what he meant by that and he replied “I want to take you on an adventure once a year! Each page will be for each adventure. There needs to be — AT LEAST 70 more pages.” I smiled and said “hmm I bet we will need more than 70 pages.” He smiled back and he purchased the most beautiful book.
Throughout the remainder of the day, my SO focused on our future. He focused on our investments and how he looks forward to begin looking for OUR first home. He stressed that he wanted to save more for OUR future. He talked about long-term goals and steps we need to take to make them our reality. It was extremely romantic hearing him discuss our future.
For dinner he had made a resveration at a fine-dining restaurant. It was beautiful. He continued to discuss us. My brain began to wonder “is he going to propose tonight?” He saw my thoughts wander and asked “what are you thinking about?” I replied “nothing” and casually took a sip of wine. My SO then stated “hmmm. No. I think I know what you are thinking.” -pause- “yup! I know what you are thinking! Yes, it is going to happen.” I laughed and said “oh yeah?” He smiled and said “yup. Yes. Of course! Yuppers!” My heart began to race a little. He then became serious and said “you should already know the answer to that question. Of course it is going to happen.” I was smiling ear to ear. He eventually laughed and looked out the window. He sat in silence with his own thoughts. While watching him, I saw the change of his expression from giddy and happy to fearful and heartbroken. His skin became pale in an instant. He broke the silence by stating “oh my— I know what you were thinking. Oh, I am so sorry. Yes of course, I am going to but not tonight. I am so sorry.” I could SEE his pain. But I couldn’t mask mine, the tears began to fall from disappointment. He began to cry in response— he felt extremely terrible.
At the time, there was disappointment but I did not want him to feel any more hurt than he already was. Thinking back to that moment, I am happy. The love of my life said “we are obviously getting married.” (I still giggle at him saying “yuppers!”) I am writing my story not only to share with the community my experience but to also let my fellow bees know that our SO’s feel A LOT of pressure. Remember to be supportive of your SO and to not add more pressure.
I am still a waiting bee — but my SO is certainly worth waiting for.