(Closed) SIL acts smug now that she's pregnant–is this a common thing?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think it’s normal but it is a bit understandable. Maybe right now she DOES feel superior in some way. :/ not saying that’s right but some women flaunt pregnancies while others (me included) look at it as a normal part of our new lives as parents. Don’t let it get to you- soon she may be floored by morning sickness and realize pregnancy isn’t all it’s cracked up to be lol. 😉 Pregnancy isn’t glamorous- and giving birth is even less so! 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My SIL is the same way, but that’s just the type of person she is–not just because she’s pregnant. Being pregnant (with their first) is quite a task for her, it seems, though. She’ll complain about morning sickness, and fatigue, like no one else in the WORLD hs ever been pregnant, and she’s so hard done-by. SMH.

Just ignore her. It’s what I do, anyway. LOL!

Post # 5
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Busy bee

@temporary:  Just wait until she has the baby and is sleep deprived that usually wipes that smug look off their face Laughing

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@hiheel:  LOL. that totally cracked me up! So true, too.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

A few women I have known have gone through that too. Every conversation is about their pregnancy, all the graphic details. Then I have to re live their birth story with them 4x a day. The preaching over how perfect she has eaten the whole time, how much more perfect her baby us, how much worse her delivery was. Going forward, always only talking about the baby. On and on and on. The general superior attitude to women wothout children… ugh. Not all of the women I know who have had kids are like this, but the few that are, Oy… there’s a reason why we don’t hang out anymore. 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Look up “pregnant women are smug” on YouTube. There’s a whole song about it!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Next time you know your going to see her, wear a pillow under your shirt, act like everything is normal, give her “the eye” and the thumbs up like you’re both part of the same club and be all snotty and rude to her….even if she doesn’t figure it out, it will be hilarious!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Are you sure it’s not in your head? The fact that she hasn’t said or done anything to make you feel this way makes it seem like it may be – what do you mean when you say it’s in the way she looks and acts?

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@hiheel:  Actually, I know of some people who still manage to be smug even when her child only sleeps for about 2 hours at a time and she’s a Stay-At-Home Mom with no additional help. One person in particular, she has a background working with SpecEd children and geez, everything she says is like the word of God and she uses all the professional lingo too, even though the rest of the population is like “Huh, what milestone was this again?”

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@HappySky7:  and dont forget how smart their kids are! Everyone’s baby is a genius. “______ is so smart she called me momma!” LOL

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@temporary:  SO she doesn’t say anything directly, but it’s just a look and a way of acting smug?

Can you give some examples?

I think the other responses are harsh, considering all we have to go on are that she has a look about her that you don’t like now that she’s pregnant.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t have any advice, but watching this may make you feel better. Enjoy.

 

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