- 5 years ago
I’m going anonymous in the event that someone reads this.
I’m a somewhat regular poster as I have been here since I was planning my own wedding a few years ago and now need some advice from the other side.
My brother is getting married this month to a fabulous girl! This is the situation though. I’m pregnant. My husband, child and I are all in the wedding. Normally, I always have a drink in my hand 🙂 Now that I’m pregnant, obviously I won’t. Also, I’m normally very slender and have already put on about 7 lbs and look a little chunky in my dress.
Right now, only my parents and best friend know that I am pregnant. I don’t want to tell my brother and soon to be SIL (or any other family member for that matter who will be at the wedding) as I do not want to take any of the attention off of them.
The rehearsal dinner is going to be pretty large, so I doubt either of them would notice whether or not I am drinking. Same thing goes for the actual wedding itself. But, during the getting ready portion, there will be lots of champagne and very few people so my soon to be SIL will notice for sure that I am not drinking.
Here is question for you. What is the lesser evil? My SIL will ask for sure if I am pregnant as soon as she notices that I am not drinking. In the bridal suite, there will only be champagne, coffee, tea and water. Do I lie to my soon to be SIL and tell her I am not pregnant (they know we started trying for our next child) or do I tell her the truth (and she will ask) and just say that I don’t want to take any attention off of them so can we please keep this between the two of us?
I’m still in the first trimester, so it’s too early to tell most people anyway, but had it not been for the wedding, we would have already told brother and soon to be SIL.
I’m just not sure which way to go here. I don’t want to lie, but I also don’t want to take any attention off of her. While she is a wonderful person, this wedding has been in the works for close to a year and a half and is what I would call a platinum wedding. It’s going to be fabulous and her family has worked so hard to make it perfect. I just don’t want to take away from her day.
What should I do?
Thanks ladies and happy wedding planning to you all 🙂