(Closed) SIL announcing pregnancy at wedding

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would just tell your brother and sister in law ahead of time.  My sister in law was newly pregnant for my wedding.  She hadn’t told most of the family yet, but did tell me so I wouldn’t wonder why she wasn’t drinking when we got ready. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you should quietly tell your SIL and Brother so that she can have your back for the wedding and wont be suspicious. 

 

This way she will know you are pregnant, but also know you dont want to take away from her day at all, then tell people after the fact that you are pregnant. 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Why not tell them ahead of time?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

i second both the PP’s. tell her right away, but let her know you aren’t ready to announce yet and don’t want to take any attention away from them.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Tell them you have an awful heachache and you took Tylenol.  Tylenol and alcohol don’t mix!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@anonSIL:  Just say you’re on antibiotics for a sore throat and aren’t drinking just to be safe. It’s sweet that you aren’t going to crash their wedding with your news. I feel that’s the best approach.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’d just call (or Skype) and tell them now, no need to keep up a ruse during the wedding, but you definitely don’t want to call attention to yourself on somebody else’s day either. I bet they’d rather find out via phone/Skype now than in person the day before/of their wedding. I know I would.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@anonSIL:  I could understand that I guess for a first child, but if it’s your second a phone call wouldn’t be bad at all.

In my family they send out mass texts when someone is pregnant, and so many of us live far away from each other. Phone calls are common place.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I would either tell them privately ahead of time, OR lie and say you’re feeling a little funky and don’t want to drink.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

If you really don’t want to say anything, and people know you are trying, you can just say that your doc told you that laying off the alcohol sometimes helps when TTC.. that way it’s not suspicious that you’re not drinking and you can tell her after the wedding if you really don’t want it coming out before or during! I doubt anyone will mention (or notice for that matter) that you look like you’ve gained 7 lbs haha, if I were your SIL tho, I would be thrilled for you and would not be thinking of it as “thunder stealing” at all! From your post she seems like a sweet girl that would most likely have a OMG THAT’S AWESOME reaction, not a bad reaction!! I also wouldn’t mind finding out over a phone call, it just seems you’re excited to tell her!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I definitely think you should tell them beforehand, and then ask them to keep it to themselves.

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