Post # 1
Few days before the wedding, we have asked my SIL to translate her dad’s welcome speech to English so everyone can understand. She texted back and didn’t want to do it at first but later she thought it would be better for a family member to do it. She wrote “It’s ok, I’ll do it. If I mess up, I mess up unfortunately for you guys haha”….
So wedding day came by and here’s the beginning of her speech.
She said… “First of all, I am not fat, I am just pregnant… HAHAHAHA… and I want to thank you everyone for coming……..”
I can’t seem to get over the fact that she annouced that she was pregnant. She was 11 weeks at that point and honestly she didn’t really know anyone at our wedding anyway and I wasn’t sure why she would want to announce it. I don’t know if I am overreacting but I can’t seem to forget about what she did.
Post # 3
It’s too bad that this is bothering you…may I ask why it does?
Post # 4
Oh, sister. My sister-in-law announced their pregnancy at our rehearsal dinner. She was not quite 8 weeks. And then spent the rest of the weekend, our weekend, going on and on and on about being pregnant. I had to throw away so many pictures because she was standing with her hands on her belly like she was about to pop. She hadn’t gained a pound! Did I mention she was my Maid/Matron of Honor and did NOTHING to help me once the secret was out and she could use her “I’m pregnant” excuse?
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Honestly– it was probably a mix of nervousness about having to stand up and talk, and excitement for being “out of the woods” with the pregnancy. I really wouldn’t let it bother you, I doubt it was a planned thing.
Post # 6
@nocturnamaialis: Personally I would be so excited for my SIL and would think it was a pretty funny way to start a speech. Assuming she didn’t talk about how the baby was conceived for the rest of the speech and talked about you and your husband, I don’t see anything wrong with it.
Post # 7
The real question is what she said/did after the fact. If she was like @almostmrsj: friend then it was about her. If was a relative non-issue it was just a nervous joke to break the ice and therefore something I wouldnt work about.
Post # 8
Well, the wedding is supposed to be about the bride and groom. I can get why someone might be upset. I guess my only advise is not to dwell on it. It happened. It’s over. You were no less of a bride than if she didn’t announce it. The day was still 99% about you. It’s fine!
Post # 9
The only reason I can think of, and I’m not saying you don’t have a reason to be upset about it, is that a wedding reception is a family event, and there are few opportunities for a person to share that news with so many people all at once…and I understand that weddings are for the bride and groom, but receptions are for the guests, and at the end of the day, while much of the activity is centered around the couple, it’s also a family event, a social gathering and a place for people who haven’t seen each other in a long time to catch up…I think the way she went about the announcement is a little strange, but hey, to each their own right? I’m certain that it only added to the excitiement of the day and certainly didn’t take any focus off why everyone was there, so as sorry as I am that this bothers you, I would do my best to chalk it up to some mishandled good intentions and leave it alone.
Post # 10
There’s always someone saying something inappropriate in a speech at a wedding. On the plus side it was something clean and happy rather than a story about your husband and a goat!
Yes, it was a bad idea but it’s done now so I’d leave it and tease her about it at a later date.
Post # 11
@Bazingau: Completely agree with you—- it is annoying for someone else to try to “steal” the occassion, intended or not.
Post # 12
Mine announced at our “engagement dinner”. It quickly became NOT an engagement dinner. Oh well. I dont know why people do these things, but i’m still happy for her.
Post # 13
..I guess since turnabout is fair play, wait till she’s throwing some event about the baby and announce something totally unrelated..see how she likes it!
Post # 14
I would be annoyed, but luckily it sounds like she didn’t really know anyone who would care and family already knew? It sounds more like it was a nerves relaxer for her than an announcement.
But if a sister announced – like to family – at my wedding or rehearsal dinner… I’d be pretty annoyed. Pretty rude in my opinion, very much trying to steal someone’s thunder.
Luckily my future SIL, who is a bridesmaid, will be 8 mos pregnant at our wedding!! LOL, so no questions there. She wouldn’t do that anyway though.
Post # 15
Sounds to me like she was uncomfortable or worried about her appearance. Why else would she state it like that?