SIL announcing pregnancy during her speech in our wedding

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

It’s too bad that this is bothering you…may I ask why it does?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Oh, sister.  My sister-in-law announced their pregnancy at our rehearsal dinner.  She was not quite 8 weeks.  And then spent the rest of the weekend, our weekend, going on and on and on about being pregnant.  I had to throw away so many pictures because she was standing with her hands on her belly like she was about to pop.  She hadn’t gained a pound!  Did I mention she was my MOH and did NOTHING to help me once the secret was out and she could use her “I’m pregnant” excuse?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Honestly– it was probably a mix of nervousness about having to stand up and talk, and excitement for being “out of the woods” with the pregnancy.  I really wouldn’t let it bother you, I doubt it was a planned thing. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@nocturnamaialis:  Personally I would be so excited for my SIL and would think it was a pretty funny way to start a speech. Assuming she didn’t talk about how the baby was conceived for the rest of the speech and talked about you and your husband, I don’t see anything wrong with it. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

The real question is what she said/did after the fact. If she was like @almostmrsj: friend then it was about her. If was a relative non-issue it was just a nervous joke to break the ice and therefore something I wouldnt work about.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Well, the wedding is supposed to be about the bride and groom.  I can get why someone might be upset.  I guess my only advise is not to dwell on it.  It happened.  It’s over.  You were no less of a bride than if she didn’t announce it.  The day was still 99% about you.  It’s fine!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

The only reason I can think of, and I’m not saying you don’t have a reason to be upset about it, is that a wedding reception is a family event, and there are few opportunities for a person to share that news with so many people all at once…and I understand that weddings are for the bride and groom, but receptions are for the guests, and at the end of the day, while much of the activity is centered around the couple, it’s also a family event, a social gathering and a place for people who haven’t seen each other in a long time to catch up…I think the way she went about the announcement is a little strange, but hey, to each their own right?  I’m certain that it only added to the excitiement of the day and certainly didn’t take any focus off why everyone was there, so as sorry as I am that this bothers you, I would do my best to chalk it up to some mishandled good intentions and leave it alone.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

There’s always someone saying something inappropriate in a speech at a wedding. On the plus side it was something clean and happy rather than a story about your husband and a goat!

Yes, it was a bad idea but it’s done now so I’d leave it and tease her about it at a later date.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

@Bazingau:  Completely agree with you—- it is annoying for someone else to try to “steal” the occassion, intended or not.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Mine announced at our “engagement dinner”. It quickly became NOT an engagement dinner. Oh well. I dont know why people do these things, but i’m still happy for her. 

Post # 13
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5983 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

..I guess since turnabout is fair play, wait till she’s throwing some event about the baby and announce something totally unrelated..see how she likes it!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would be annoyed, but luckily it sounds like she didn’t really know anyone who would care and family already knew? It sounds more like it was a nerves relaxer for her than an announcement.

But if a sister announced – like to family – at my wedding or rehearsal dinner… I’d be pretty annoyed. Pretty rude in my opinion, very much trying to steal someone’s thunder.

Luckily my future SIL, who is a bridesmaid, will be 8 mos pregnant at our wedding!! LOL, so no questions there. She wouldn’t do that anyway though.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Sounds to me like she was uncomfortable or worried about her appearance.  Why else would she state it like that?

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