- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
This is my first venting post! Made it through my own wedding planning basically drama free, the issue is now with my SIL and her wedding.
A little back story : DH and I got married last year at a Resort in Mexico. SIL was at our wedding and loved the whole idea of a destination wedding.
This past fall her and her bf started trying to plan their wedding and decided to also do a destination for various reasons. Awesome! She was texting and calling DH and I asking for tips on picking photographers etc since we had just done this ourselves and she tossed out the idea of maybe getting married at the same resort we had used – we had no issues with this.
They got engaged over Xmas.
Where the drama starts: When she was discussing possible dates with my DH he told her that due to school (he took a promotion and its a combo of class time and lots of on the job training) he would be unable to go away in May and June of this year as he will be in Classroom training(8weeks) which cant be missed – we didnt think this would be an issue as this was less then 5months away, and most people give more time for far destination weddings. Also, he mentioned there was a 2 week period in early October when he has finals that he also couldnt go and their Mom couldnt take vacation time after September due to her work. Yes it sucks that she was limited by others schedules, but thats what happeneds when you do a destination wedding; they take up a lot more of a guests time than a standard wedding. We dealt with the same scheduling issues with our wedding. SIL was frustrated, understanably and DH did mention she could have her wedding whenever she wanted and that would be totaly fine,but just to keep in mind if it fell during those times we wouldnt be able to go.
It sounded like she was pretty keen on a September destination wedding whch wouldve worked great for everyone. That was the last we heard from SIL. DH talked to his Mom the other night and it turns out she booked her wedding for this June(she has baby fever and apparently waiting 3 more months was just too much) and even went as far as to tell their Mom that we said “we werent interested in attending her wedding, so she was just going to exclude us!”
That was never said and in fact we were quite excited about her wedding!
Thankfully my MIL knew the real story but I am still offended she twisted everything around so she could play the victim and make us the bad guys :S
The icing on the cake, SIL is very unorganzied in planning this wedding, in terms of giving out the right info for everyone else to be able to book their travel etc. My MIL isnt the greatest when it comes to planning trips, especially when using points, so it’s been left to DH and myself(me being the one to research it all) to book the travel for my MIL to a wedding we arent even invited to…
SIL, from what I have witnessed and been told of by all her family has always been a “princess” and spoiled brat and this stunt solidified that for me. We had fun hanging out our wedding and I was hopeful she had out grown at least some of that behavior. (side note shes also a couple years older then me).
The positive spin I tried to put on it : Imitation is the highest form of flattery! (same resort as us, same month, 1 week prior to our anniversary lol)