- 3 months ago
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
OK, so maybe not from hell LOL. But still causing me an insane amount of stress. Warning this may be a long.
So on March 11, 2018 I was proposed to you with a $32 CZ ring from Sears as a place holder with the intention to upgrade before the wedding. he new I wanted to pick my own.
Less than a week after my boyfriend proposed, his brother propose to his girlfriend…with a $3000 wedding set that he bragged about non-stop and made jokes about buying seaso with a $3000 wedding set that he bragged about non-stop and made jokes about my CZ
I stated I was thinking of an early September wedding. Almost immediately they booked their wedding and send out save the dates for the first Saturday of September 2018.
His brother has always been really insanely competitive with him. Like my boyfriend bought a 88 Honda motorcycle and then his brother went out and bought a brand new Harley even though he to this day he still doesn’t even know how to drive a motorcycle it just sits in his garage for example .
I saw how this was going to go so I put off all wedding planning until after their wedding because I didn’t want this to be a competition and the way they were making it. I never disclosed any of my ideas for my wedding while they were planning theirs. Anytime I was asked I would say we are going to be there for your big day and then I’ll worry about mine.
My fiancé was the best man at his brothers wedding and our daughter was a flower girl but I was given no information on their wedding I didn’t even know colors or anything like that until I showed up.
I was invited to the bridal shower. I was sitting at a table at the bridal shower when the bride’s best friend/bridesmaids were looking at me and one said “who the hells a this”. I told them I was engaged to the grooms brother and there was laughing. Followed by “I thought you were (BIL’s) mom. I said “no, (BIL) is actually older than me que more laughter and “there is no way your that young!”
About a week after this hellish bridal shower I got a text from the bride un inviting me from her bachelorette party because she didn’t want any drama with her friends.
Fast forward to the day of the rehearsal dinner. I was not invited. My fiancé and our daughter were there but I had to stay home until the Ceremony the next day
They went on their honeymoon immediately after that lasted a week. We waited for one month after they got back from their honeymoon before openly talking about our wedding and announcing that we scheduled it for the last Saturday of August 2019 I also got a $3000 engagement ring, not wedding set, and picked out a $2000 wedding band. And t I also got a $3000 engagement ring, not wedding sets, and picked out a $2000 wedding band. And future SIL got pissed at me showing her up.
Anytime we see them I get a constant barrage of questions from future SIL about to the wedding and I’m as brief as possible and don’t give her any details. Her and her husband actually have the nerve to be upset and complain to my fiancé that future SIL is not in my wedding party even though her husband a.k.a. my fiancé his brother is the best man a.k.a. Literally the exact same thing she did.
We were recently at a cook out where she was again getting nosy/butt hurt about my bridesmaids dresses and everything else. She asked me when we were planning on having another one and I said it will probably start trying in the fall after the wedding. She got really silent and bitch face the rest of the time their. It looked like some minor arguing between future SIL and husband left early about halfway through the night without even acknowledging me or saying bye to me.
My fiancé was sitting next to them on the couch and told me afterwards he overheard them talking about needing to get her birth control removed right away. And now I have a really sick feeling that they’re going to try to get pregnant this summer just so she can get pregnant before me and I really wouldn’t put it past them to wait to make a pregnancy announcement until at my wedding to take some of the attention and put it on her.
I am sure even though I was specifically not invited to the bachelorette party or allowed at the rehearsal dinner with my family or allowed to show up to the wedding until start time, if I put those same restrictions on her or left her out in that same way it would start World War III
I don’t really know how to deal with them anymore and just really needed this rant.