Post # 16
julies1949: My safety concern isn’t about everyday threats. This deal has been going on for almost two years and I didn’t think of it until she got old enough to drive. It would come in handy if she got stuck in the snow or got into an accident.
A blocked phon for emergency numbers is a good idea. I like that one.
We could always switch it to a regular use phone if she got her grades up.
You ladies are so helpful with getting new ideas 😊
Post # 17
If it’s really for safety, just get her a plain and basic phone. No data, no fun stuff, an hour of talk time.
Post # 18
aliwar1225: I agree with PPs. Buy a regular, non-smart phone with limits (opting out of texting might be a good idea if you don’t want to distract her) and make an upgrade contingent on her grades.
Post # 19
aliwar1225: It depends – is she expecting a smartphone? There’s no reason she needs that. But a basic phone with calling and texting – I think that’s a safety requirement for kids these days. If you’re going to give either, be clear about the strings and conditions upfront.
Post # 20
aliwar1225: “SIL is old enough to work a part time job now but decided it is more important to focus on grades, which I agreed with”…. No, she is not working because she doesn’t have too. She seems OK with going along with a free ride. She is not studying, not working, but is hanging out with friends. Stop enabling the “poor me” attitude she has. She has no sense of responsibility because she doesn’t need too.
She needs to shape up, study, and get a part time job.
I grew up in an age where that was the norm. At 15 you started working part time AND maintained good grades. Kids today are lazy.
No phone, she can get a job and pay for her own phone AND the bill.
You stated she is old enough to drive… who is paying for that? Did someone actually buy her a car? She hasn’t earned a car or a phone.
Post # 21
Get her a non-contract emergency phone. Like a basic boost phone or something.
Post # 22
aliwar1225: The only reason I had a phone in high school was because I was on a traveling team and my mom didn’t like that I had to ask others to call. I mean I went as far as 500 miles away from home. I was almost left at a truck stop once at 15. But mom made sure grades were up. Grades first phones second. After I had my phone my younger siblings all had the same rules no grades no phone. Best to get her something else.
Post # 23
aliwar1225: IF safety is the issue, get her one w/no texting plan and that can only make calls. No smart phone.
Post # 24
I dont think that doing it for safety is dumb. Yes, you might not have had a cell phone in high school, thats great, but when I was in high school, I used my phone a lot to check in with my mom, & a lot of times I walked home from school alone on bike trails, & im glad I had my phone for my safety. not to mention going in the ditch at night while its snowing, I am so lucky I had my phone. You dont want some creep pulling up at night if she has car troubles & realizing she doesnt have a phone. This might be more of a regional situation though because where I had to drive sometimes it was pretty empty & had steep ditches where someone might not notice you for a long time if you slid into the ditches. Is all of this likely to happen? Maybe not but situations did arrise in high school where I am really happy that I had a phone when no one else was there to borrow one from.
I do think that it should be a basic phone. With kids abusing phones these days & all of their apps & functions, I think it would be best.
Post # 25
BrideK2Wings: She does not have her own car. Her parents allow her to use theirs on occasion, which is something I obviously do not have a say in since she is not my child and Darling Husband and I do not contribute any money towards the car or gas.