- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
So I need somewhere to vent and get some opinions.
This past weekend we had our Stag and Doe. Went well made a bunch of money. My Maid/Matron of Honor went crazy trying to make sure everything went smoothly and had people butting in left and right giving their opinions. Which was very frustrating for her because the area we are from is huge on Stag an doe’s. And Maid/Matron of Honor has never had to help organize one so she didn’t know all the “rules” that came with it. So SIL kept telling Maid/Matron of Honor uh you are supposed to do it this way, I can only help early in the night cuz I want to be able to drink.Etc. Which was fine. Maid/Matron of Honor worked around people. Got to have one drink all night and had 5 people who offered to help be way to drunk or not wanting to help day of. So she was trying to do every job possible. At one point I had to sell drink tickets. So the night is over and I am so glad. FH and I had so many fights about the night because of the ‘Rules’.
So Maid/Matron of Honor is also organizing the stagette. Which I know nothing about. Just that it involves drinking and the date it is happeining. Maid/Matron of Honor invited a bunch of people because one of the events during the day needs a bunch of people for it to be lots of fun. So she happened to invite people that aren’t invited to the wedding. But most know that because we are having a small wedding. And we are having an open reception after 9. Well SIL found out that Maid/Matron of Honor invited people that aren’t invited to the wedding and had a bunch to say. Because you can’t invite people to the stagette if they aren’t invited to the wedding!! Heaven forbide. (did I mention that they already know they aren’t invited and still want to come??)
Which leads me to yesterday. SIL calls me up to say that she was organizing the bridal shower and was trying to find out which was gonna work best for me. Then was asking about invites because they had just recieved theirs and people were confused if they were invited to the dinner because the invite just said reception to follow. And in my head I was screaming at her…..If you get an rsvp in an invite you assume you are going to the dinner.
The reason they said reception to follow was because FH wanted to send invites out to people that could come to the reception and not the dinner. But they wouldn’t have recieved a RSVP. In the end I veto’d that because I didn’t want to do it from day one because I would be mad if someone took the effort to send me an invite but didn’t want to invite me to the dinner. And I think that I can just tell people that we are having an open reception and to feel free and come by.
Which leads me back to SIL and the bridal shower. She was inviting people to the shower that she knows are NOT invited to the wedding. Wait remember how she told Maid/Matron of Honor that you don’t invite people to things that aren’t invited to the wedding?? ACcckkk she kills me. So then she asked if we were sending out invites to the cousins (not invited). Just reception invites tho. And I told her no because I would be offended if I got one of those. And It would go agaist what I believe. So she said I should do them so that people wouldn’t be offended. How does this now become my problem? She invited them to the shower knowing full well that they were not invited.
So I talked to FH when he came home from work. Kiinda told him I was gonna kill SIL before she was officially my SIL. And he kind of aggreed with SIL until I started freaking out. Because I am not doing something I disagree with just because she thinks I should. And then I asked him how he would feel if he got an invite like that. and he thought about it and kinda agreed with me. Good thing to, I might have banned him from the bed. So we decided we could just add a line to our wedding announcment. And then just spread the word. Because I am not stressing out about making more invites so that 8 people aren’t offended.
I still want to disown SIL. Because she is just a butterinner. (not a word but I just made it one.) I now just want to be married so I don’t have to deal with all the Sh*t that comes with it.
Sorry this is soooo long. I just needed to vent. And I even tried to cut out half the fluff.