(Closed) SIL is trying to invite her friend to my bachelorette-not sure what to do?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@supervixen:  I would have your Maid/Matron of Honor politely tell your SIL that it’s a small invite only event for close family and friends and leave it at that. 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@supervixen:  “She wants to invite close friends only. If everyone brought a friend it would change the atmosphere of the night completely”.

If Maid/Matron of Honor has no luck, perhaps your Fiance (her brother) could have a word to her?

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

eh, this wouldn’t bother me at all – the more the merrier! Does your SIL know the other people at the party? 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I wouldn’t have a problem with this at all. I wouldn’t want to go to my SILs bachelorette party without a friend because Im not friends with any of her friends and this could be the same for her.

Post # 10
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8690 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i guess it depends what you are doing. 

 once a friend of mine invited me to join her for her friend’s bachelorette.  the girl didn’t care that i was there and i didn’t feel awkward being there.

 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

How well does she know the other people there? Are they close friends or family? 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@supervixen:  Oh…that’s strange. Still, I would probably let her bring her friend to keep the peace. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I can see how she might have a “the more the merrier” train of thought.  My sister tagged along to my best friend’s bachelorette and it was a great time, but they’ve known each other for years, the bachelorette was pretty casual, and my best friend was totally cool with it.  What are you guys doing?  How many people will be there?

I ask only because if your bachelorette is going to be relatively casual and large (i.e. not an intimate spa day kind of thing), then I doubt you’d even notice her presence.  Who knows, she may even add something to the party, plus your SIL will likely be more social and have more fun.  But if you already know you’re going to be uncomfortable with the situation, now’s the time to speak up.

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