Post # 16
I just googled this and I wouldn’t cringe at it if I saw it on a resume that came across my desk:
I agree with PPs in advising against mentioning adulting skills like organization/budgeting. Focus on the facts and that will come across as genuine and honest.
Post # 17
TheGridMonster : She’s kept up with one software related skill, I was going to suggest she put a simple sentence about it, after pursue building a family — which apparently sounds bad, LOL. So something simple, like: “Became a stay at home parent. 2016” or similar reads the most simple and honest?
This is difficult for me because I have no kids and no gaps, yet. I’m going to have her read this thread.
Post # 18
To note your other point about covering expenses for them on a home -Hard no on lending/giving money to family. I know they struggled with fertility but she made the choice after having her child to be a stay at home mom.
Post # 19
notmeeither : Googling the question, I found an example with a single short phrase explaining the gap as “Sabbatical to raise children”. Also, there are free online courses and certifications which she can cite in her resume under “skills” to demonstrate fluency.
Post # 20
notmeeither : PP have good points.
Just wanted to add that you are assuming the reason she isn’t getting any interviews is because of the gap. Honestly if I saw a gap like this in a woman of child-rearing years, I would assume it was relating to motherhood before anything else.
What if it’s her skills? Her presentation of the rest of the resume?
I would suggest she speak to a careers counsellor and professional resume writer to ensure there is nothing else, not accounted for.
Post # 21
rosadiaz : I originally thought this, as well. So I actually requested to see her resume to look over the professional presentation of it. She is in a media communications position, so her grammar, the visual presentation and her wording are far, far better than mine would ever be. I see no issue with how she presented herself, and she was fairly accomplished in her previous position and worked for two former prestigious companies. I can’t imagine that would be the issue here, although I agree it is in many cases.
anonymousbee001 : I will encourage her to use that exact phrase. And, perhaps highlight any upkeep/certifications she might have completed.
tobeornottobe7 : I know, being his younger sister, that this would not end up being a “loan” for them. It would be a full gift. Even if it was originally agreed to be a loan. Darling Husband and I discussed it, and the amount he talked about was between 65-85k as a downpayment for 20% of their mortgage and closing costs. To me, this creates a relationship where I believe we will be called on repeatedly to “help” with future expenses. Since I also may have to undergo IVF and surrogacy, I have no interest in spending funds that could help bring our own child into the world on supporting someone else’s family. I don’t usually step into their personal lives regarding job hunting, but this is the only way I can see everyone remaining happy. I don’t want to become his sister’s secondary set of parents financially. His parents already are far, far too generous with her and her Darling Husband and have created a bit of lack of gratitude and expectations that I do not want to feed into.
(And now I won’t be sharing this thread with her, LOL).