Post # 16
So your SIl is unreasonable and spoiled if she and her sister aren’t talking over not having a whole year to herself for a wedding. Do not ignore that red flag. Don’t tell ANYONE in the family when you are going to TTC. Do not open yourself up to SIL’s craziness. TTC when it works best for you and your husband and keep it to yourselves. If and when you do get pregnant you deal with it then. Also your husband needs to be ready to address any complaints or bad behavior from SIl when you announce your pregnancy and or need to adjust how you attend their wedding. You under no circumstances should talk to or respond to SIL’s comments on it unless she says congrats. She throws a tantrum? Your husband calls his brother and handles it. You dont get involved.
Post # 17
Hey girl, I was just in the situation. We had to push our wedding due to COVID, but FHs sister is TTC now and may not make it next year. Don’t change your plans! At first, my fiance was sad that his sister might not be able to attend, but he changed his thinking into becoming an uncle and that a baby is more important. We are going to celebrate with them in another way if they can’t make.it. As a Future Sister-In-Law, my opinions were that I want her to do what’s best for her and her family. I hope this helps!
Post # 18
I would already say no, don’t put your plans on hold. A life event of having a baby is far more important than a one night wedding party. But with your update that she wants the whole year, I’d double down on not waiting. She needs to learn that life goes on and if she’s upset that you’re pregnant at her wedding, then maybe she’ll learn to grow up.
Post # 19
Thanks so much! My husband definitely wouldn’t have a problem saying anything to her if needed.
Post # 20
Good for you for being understanding and supportive! Thanks for the advice!
Post # 21
If you conceived right away in the past, there’s a good chance you will again. If you are not OK with potentially missing this wedding because you can’t travel or deliver early, then wait a month or two. It would have nothing to do with her being upset that you are pregnant. Too bad.
That said, who knows if June 2021 will be safe to hold a traditional wedding. Personally, I think there’s a very good chance it won’t be.
Post # 22
She and her sister both sound absolutely ridiculous. That would make me even less willing to put my plans on hold for anything she was doing. People are dying of some random freak illness and she’s not talking to her sister because she wants a whole year to herself? Talk about fucked up priorities.
Good luck with your pregnancy planning and baby making! (Personally, I would hope I had a super cute and noticeable baby bump at her wedding so I felt good enough to go and dance and enjoy myself AND so that she could get bent.)
Post # 23
Good lord no. If sil objects to you being obviously pregnant at her wedding, she’s a mean spirited arse. And unrealistic too – there may be others, gasp, pregnant . Will she ask them to leave ?
Don’t entertain the idea for a moment, your only reason for not attending, supposing you are in late pregnancy,is your own comfort and safety travelling .