(Closed) SIL/FSIL: Are they the kind of person you’d be friends with…

posted 10 years ago in Family
  • poll: If your SIL wasn't your SIL, could you be friends?

    Yep, we're practically besties.

    Yep, we're less than besties but I enjoy her presence.

    No, we tolerate each other but we wouldn't be friends.

    No, I'd never choose to associate with someone like her.

    Other, whatever that may be.

  • Post # 30
    1874 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I love and adore my FSILs but we arent around the same age therefore I dont think we would have ben friends or even ben in the same circle of friends if we would have met in any other circumstance.

    Post # 31
    125 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My Future Sister-In-Law is my best friend..and was before me and my fiance were even together. I don’t know what I would do without her.

    Post # 32
    1626 posts
    Bumble bee

    My DH has two sisters. One is loads older than me and one is loads younger. I like them but they live on another continent so I don’t get to see them. I talk or text with them occassionally. My other SIL’s are through my brothers. One is 8 years younger than me. She’s very nice but as of now, she’s in her 20’s finishing up school and we don’t have a lot in common yet but I do see that changing because she is an awesome person and nice to my brother to boot! My other SIL is the greatest. She’s about my age, we talk all the time or text. I only see her a couple of times a year but she dated my brother for YEARS so that by the time they got married, she was like a sister to me!

    Post # 33
    4858 posts
    Honey bee

    I really like her.  She didn’t like me at first, but now I believe she really does care about me.  I don’t think we would naturally be friends since we don’t have tons in common, but I’m glad we’ll be SILs soon (neither of us have a real sister).

    Post # 34
    7941 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    No and no. While my two FSIls are nice people they are totally different from me, so much so that we don’t have many common interests so socializing would be awkward.

    Post # 35
    1099 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I get along with my Future Sister-In-Law. We have both helped each other along the way, in terms of dealing with family things. We can talk about family things that irk us. There is a little bit of an age difference between us (6 years). There are times where I feel like when I get advice, she’s talking to me as a young kid. I don’t think it’s intentional, though. She’s a really nice person, I think we’d be friends, but not BFFs.


    Post # 36
    74 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Oh yes, I would be friends with both sister in laws and my future bro in law! They are some of the MOST uplifting, fun, smart people I’ve ever really been around! They remind me of my own sister who happens to be my best friend! I feel very lucky to have them in my life 🙂

    Post # 37
    2863 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I have two SsIL (and they’re actually first cousins–to each other, not me). I could definitely have been friends with both of them outside of our marital connections. I have a lot in common with both of them (one more than the other). 

    Post # 37
    1675 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Hell no! I kind of lack in the in-law department and I don’t “force” myself to asociate with any of them just b/c they’re “family.”

    Post # 38
    700 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My FBIL’s wife is awesome.  We would be friends (but not besties).  My Future Sister-In-Law…eh.

    Post # 39
    406 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    My SIL (DH’s Brother’s wife) and I don’t get on very well…. We don’t not get along, but we really don’t mesh/can’t relate to each other.  We’re both very polite about it, but I find it stressfull to spend much time with her.  Get on really well with DH’s brother though!

    Post # 40
    173 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I got really lucky on both sides. My brother is getting married to a great gril. We are really close…expect lately with her bachorlette party lol…as many of you know…But really we’ve all taken trips together and go on family vacations yearly. It’s awesome and she’s really fun. My FI’s sister is great. She’s only 17, but we really connect. We have done day trips with her and have a really good time. Both of these girls would have been my friends if we crossed paths pre-FI. My Fi’s brother is a bit of a mystery. I had to earn his likings…Like maybe I wasn’t trust worthy or something? In fact I know we wouldn’t be friend unless Fiance because we had a class in highschool together and sat next to each other and we really never talked. Ever. I asked for help on a project and he said it was easy and I’d figure it out lol. He’s very nice to me but I think he had his guard up for his brothers sake I guess.

    Post # 41
    1116 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @UpstateCait:  Hell to the no.  We would NEVER ever ever be friends if it was not for the fact that I married into this family.  My Brother-In-Law and his wife, my SIL, are evangelical Christians.  Like, really super duper Christian.  They married at 18 and she had babies right away so all she has to talk about are: Cooking, Child rearing, and God.  None of which are even remotely interesting to me.  However, we have formed a bond that I would call a friendship despite our very big differences. 

    My other SIL, my husband’s actual sister, is a very cool girl and I would definitely be friends with her.  She is like 5 years younger than me, but we have a lot in common.  She lives far away and I’ve only met her twice, but both times we’ve hit it off.

    Post # 42
    1646 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I voted other since I have 2 sils and feel very differently about them 🙂

    my bro’s wife and I are close when we’re together, like I’ve confided in her before, like when I was waiting for dh to propose. she and my brother went to the same college as I did, so we spent a lot of time together when we were younger. now we don’t live in the same place though, and she can be a bit standoff-ish at times, like she made zero effort to be a “good” bridesmaid leading up to my wedding. but, I do think we’d still be friendly even if we weren’t family.

    dh’s sister is an irresponsible drama queen that I have zero in common with. I’m a non-confrontational person by nature so we’ve never had a problem face-to-face, but I wouldn’t choose to spend time with her if I could get out of it while still being polite…

    Post # 43
    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012 - Padua Hills Theater

    My Future Sister-In-Law is awesome. I think we would have been friends if we met in school or something. She’s very sweet and we get a long really well. I’m very lucky!

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