(Closed) Silly reasons you want to get engaged

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ve told my SO this as well… Really my only “silly” reason for wanting the ring (all but this reason are the “real reasons” love devotion etc…) but I do also want a ring for the finger to let others know I’m spoken for. I hate when creepy men 3 times my age make passes at me, makes them a lot less (or I’m hoping so) if a ring is on the finger. Other than that, I’m more nervous over the wedding and telling people about the engagement when it happens… I don’t like being the center of attention or fussed over at all… But I love him and being married to him will be wonderful!

Post # 18
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

i am already engaged, but one of my silly reasons was age too. i am turning 22 this year, i look 16 apparently. i always get told ‘you’ll be happy about looking young when you’re 30’. great but i am not 30 yet, i don’t appreciate looking like a kid, i am an adult. but i think now with the ring there should be less comments like that

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@cabbage212:  I am also the unmarried female! I hate not being able to join in conversations about life with the hubby.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I want to be taken seriously at the office.  And, I’d like the ring so I can shut my mom up.  I’m not sure what HER rush is but the beau and I have only dated for a little over a year. 

 

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My silly reason is that I HATE being a ‘girlfriend’. My SO is 34 so all of his friends are married with kids. I think he is far too old to be someone’s boyfriend and I hate being the girlfriend among the wives. I know they don’t think of me any differently for it, but I feel like once I’m a fiancee, I will really be one of them.

And I can completely relate to the needing-a-ring-when-you-go-out thing. When I go out with my single girlfriends, we wear decoy rings. I bought a $10 ring in college to use when I didn’t want to be bothered at the bar and it just keeps on working! It’s amazing what a little sparkle will do to keep men away! 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Besides all the good reasons I want to get engaged so I can have a shiney new ring to stare at. Also I had never thought about it helping you look older, that would be ahuge bonus for me! I am 24 and an old lady told me I looked 17 this weekend then was laughing, I did not laugh. My SO told her to walk away because I would flip on her.

Post # 23
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Worker bee

I am also in the ‘everyone mistakes me for a teenager category.’

I am back in school now finally finishing my degree and last month one of my instructors asked if I was a high school student doing some college courses! I try my best to dress my age but it never seems to make a difference, so I guess a part of me thinks an engagement ring would do the trick. Oh and I also no longer feel like ‘boyfriend’ is the right term for my SO after having been together for so long now.

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My silly reason is the social change.  I feel like the outside world affords more legitimacy to the relationship of an engaged couple, even though we have been committed for almost 5 years.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I can’t stand calling him my boyfriend. I have been using the word Spouse for a while now. Boyfriend just seams so Highschool / Early 20’s.

I am 31 and just want to be a wife to my husband.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MabelleBliss:  Story of my life at work. I can never tell if people are flirting with me. They hang out at the front desk where I am required to sit and chat with me. And sometimes its nice because I’m bored out of my mind. And sometimes you can tell they’re working up the courage to ask me out. (btw I work at a fitness center checking ids when people come in) I was so glad when I got engaged because while fewer guys seem to be flirting with me, I can tell myself that the ones who are have to be aware that I’m engaged. Though I did have one guy tell me I didn’t have a ring on the finger you’re supposed to (it was on my left hand) and I was like “um what?” And he said “doesn’t it go on your right hand?” And I said “nope.”  So it won’t deter the guys who don’t know their lefts and rights yet. 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Jacqui90:  Oh and the ring doesn’t stop those comments. I got guesses of 14 and 17 this summer (I’m 21) and I was engaged :/

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m engaged now (whew!) but I agree with wanting the social-change/respect for the relationship.  I’m in grad school and you just seem way more adult when you’re talking about your FI!

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Agreed – I hate the word boyfriend or girlfriend. After five and a half years I’m ready for husband and wife. Unfortunately I have to go through fiance first, which is an even more annoying word to me. 

My boss calls my SO either my “friend” or my “husband” – as if there’s nothing between.

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@bakergirl:  That too! For some reason the couple that got engaged at 7 months was taken more seriously than us when we had been together for 4 years.

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Mine was so I could go on these message boards and not feel like a silly girl! Minutes after we got engaged, I set up my account!

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