- 6 years ago
My first post on the bee even though I’ve been lurking. I asked to be put on the waiting list, but I feel like its a little silly for me to be waiting. I’m hoping for some honest opinions. I’m 28 and he is 33. Both of us have never been married. I have a 10 year old son who is special needs. He has no children. We have only been together 11 months. He isn’t in a great spot financially and neither am I. I know he has no money for a ring and we couldn’t afford a wedding or a life together at this point anyway. We are not total losers just kind of victims of a bad economy. He is in construction which has slow periods and I’m underemployed as a nurse. I am going back to school for my bsn and he has been trying hard to land a better job. If I was really desperate I could probably land a better paying job but the hours I work now are great for being a single mom and trying to fit in schoolwork so I don’t really want to.
our relationship is great. He treats me well and is madly in love with me. I am madly in love also and feel blessed to have such a good man in my life. Marriage is important to me and he knows this. I have told him I don’t want to live with anyone I’m not married to because I don’t think my son needs to be exposed to living with just a bf. He also knows I dumped someone I was dating a couple years ago after a 2 year relationship because I want to get married someday and that relationship wasn’t headed down that path. Honestly that wasn’t that difficult because deep down I knew that guy wasn’t the one. I feel this guy is definitely the one. I have no intentions of dumping him but am def planning on evaluating this relationships progress at the two year mark.
Now on to why I am actually waiting. I have been getting some serious clues that this man wants to marry me or maybe I just read too much into things. He told a friend of mine and two friends of his in front of her that he wants to propose a few weeks ago while out for drinks. Before xmas his coworker joked that he wanted to get me a diamond for Xmas. At Xmas dinner his mom told me she didn’t understand why ppl get married after being together for seven years and then they ruin a good relationship. Her opinion not mine and that one could go either way as far as clues. She also told me he has never had a gf over for dinner before. When I asked him about that he told me he was waiting for the right one! He texted me the other day about his neighbors who just got engaged and how excited he was for them. He also keeps talking about his coworkers great marriage to his wife. He also told me a while ago that maybe he is supposed to be My sons stepfather. In August we were shopping and he asked me if I wanted a diamond. We had a mini fight in front of a friend of his and his friend said ” that’s what happens when you get married” my bf said she’s just upset cause she cares about me. There is more like a friend of mine who he talks to occasionally cause they are neighbors really thought it was going to happen at Xmas. At the time I told her I thought anything before 1 year was too soon for me.
If you got this far thanks and I’d love to hear your opinions. Sorry it’s all over the place and has bad grammar since I’m typing on my phone.