SIL's short notice courthouse wedding – gift logistics

posted 1 week ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’d get them a “real” (for lack of a better word) gift now, if you would want to give them a substantial gift at any point. A lot of times, those receptions don’t come to fruition. Speaking from experience! 🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️ My husband and I eloped and wanted to do a later reception, but with the baby and extra costs and life getting in the way, it didn’t happen. Gifts from loved ones following our actual wedding would have meant a lot ❤️

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

I agree. They are getting married now, even if they celebrate again later. Life happens, that reception may not. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

SeaOfLove :  if you can’t afford it, then that’s that… you don’t have any obligation to give them a monetary gift ❤️ If you did still want to do something, Maybe an IOU of some sort, like a celebratory dinner out after the holidays when things have calmed down?

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

I think January is still an appropriate amount of time to give them a gift that would still be considered a wedding gift. Etiquette says you have a year after the wedding to give a gift, so just get them a card and then hold off on the gift until January. I agree with the PP who said not to wait for the celebration, as those plans may change a lot.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

If you truly can’t afford anything then definitely wait until Jan, but not until the ‘big reception’. That said I’d also try to attend. Doctors appointments can be rescheduled. I’d make more of an effort to attend if possible.

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