(Closed) SIL’s Shower=ANXIETY

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Do I have to go?
    yes : (33 votes)
    92 %
    no : (3 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    541 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would. My Future Sister-In-Law aren’t very close and I would probably prefer not to go as well, but I would do it just to save family drama. Will there be other people there you know and can hang out with? Even though it’s a big social event, most people’s attention will be focused on your SIL anyway.

    Post # 5
    Member
    113 posts
    Blushing bee

    yes you must go, im always told be the bigger person but id get her something cheesy its like everyone else thinks your thoughtful but you know shed never want yadda yadda yadda…. its like being mature but imature at the same time, ive had no choice over things going on with my Future Sister-In-Law whom i do not like either long story but its her doing. but i think its a funny idea bc ive thought of it! my Future Sister-In-Law spent her entire time at my bridal shower on her phone in and out of the room to her boyfriend and left without me knowing ans saying goodbye so always remember karma is a bitch!

    Post # 6
    Member
    747 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    if i were you in that situation, i’d go. it’s easier to be able to say you made the effort, even if it goes unnoticed most of the time. maybe they’ll have some tasty drinks to help you relax=)

    Post # 8
    Member
    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Yes, you should at least go with a gift and make an appearance. If its that bad, leave after an hour?

    Post # 9
    Member
    113 posts
    Blushing bee

    @rljohnso14:

    yes she is special all right!

    buy yor Future Sister-In-Law some dorky pajamas! grandma style

    Post # 10
    Member
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    you dont have to go but i think you should go – try to find a quite corner, always have a smile on your face, look interested and make the best of it.

    Post # 12
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    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @rljohnso14: I think the whole thing is more about trying to get along with your future in-laws than anything else. Yeah, sounds weird to me too but sometimes we have to do things to make the best of our family/future families.. I still say to at least make an appearance.

    Post # 13
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    39 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I say go.  Try to make the best of it.  Aflter all I’m sure you won’t be the only person who thinks this whole commitment ceremony is weird.  Be the bigger person.  I know how hard this is (as I am in a situation now where I have to be!).  And go in with an out (have your excuse all ready to leave early if you’re feeling, well, like you can’t handle it).  Luckily (insert sarcasm here) I have a medical condition that I (and the fiance) can use at a moment’s notice should we need to quickly exit that is.  I haven’t had to use that one in years : )

    Post # 14
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    62 posts
    Worker bee

    I voted you should attend the shower but I agree the whole thing sounds strange. A shower for a non-wedding? A suppose there will be another shower for the real wedding? As to doing a committment ceremony to have approved sex within their religion, I’m sorry, but that’s nuts. If you’re following a religion that bans sex outside marriage then I don’t get this at all.

    Post # 16
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    7387 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    It’s a messed up situation but you gotta go. That whole marriage but its not a marrige thing is completely. I don’t envy you.

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