Post # 1
Ugh. Ok, I was never really expecting a proposal (though I was starting to feel like SO was up to something for last weekend), but I was expecting jewelry. I wrote a post last week about how my boyfriend promised to buy me jewelry if I finished the Insanity workout program. I finished about 2 weeks ago. He asked about what jewelry I liked and I sent him a few links to necklaces that I would love. A few days after that he said that he was so excited to give me my present and that it was even better than what I asked for and that I would LOVE it. He also double checked our anniversary date with me so I was certain that he was getting whatever jewelry he was buying for me engraved. Then he claimed that he could paint my nails better than I could, royally screwed them up, and brought me to get a manicure to make it up to me. He told them to give me a “regular” manicure (boyspeak: french mani). I was going on vacation with him to meet his family this past weekend. And he kept mentioning how excited he was to give me his present but I would have to wait a bit until it was ready because he had to order it. I pestered him about it a little and he told me “I got you silverware!” I totally thought he was joking and figured he was just not going to give up any information.
So he was being sneaky and not telling me what it was, or when I would get it (even though I asked a bunch of times), was really excited to give it to me, was going on vacation with me, and brought me to get a manicure. In the back of my mind, I was definitely wondering. Even my mom admitted that she totally thought he was going to propose to me on vacation even though I hadn’t talked to her about my suspicions.
No jewelry or ring on the trip (thought his sister would maybe give him whatever he was getting for me since she works in a jewelry store). Came home one day after the trip, and there was new silverware in the drawer. Legitimately silverware. WTF? Granted, it is nice…but seriously? It’s not jewelry.
So I went over to him and I was like um….so you legitimately got me silverware? And he said, “Yeah! Isn’t it nice?” And I may or may not have pouted a bit and said “Silverware? Really? You’re not joking?” He laughed and said he wasn’t joking. I was pissed and continued to pout. He didn’t even act like it was a present. I just showed up and found new silverware in the drawer? And that’s even less romantic than the blender he got me for Valentine’s Day (he got an earful about that one).
So now I don’t know what to do. I’m hurt if he really just got me silverware. It’s not what I wanted. He knows that. I really just wanted a necklace. He made it seem like I might be getting more than that. I still want jewelry :[ I don’t know if he is being serious or not. When we were with his family, he had to stop at an atm to get money to give to his sister. And he wouldn’t tell me why. So I’m not sure if there’s still hope or not for my jewelry. Do I wait it out and see if he’s just messing with me or do I assume that he’s serious about the silverware and address the fact that it’s not what I wanted or what he promised me and it honestly just creates more work for me (we don’t have a dishwasher.) :[
Do you think he is just messing with me? I don’t want to wait and realize in a few weeks that I really did just get silverware and just blow up on him randomly about it.
Post # 3
It sounds like there is more than silverware… but WOW if this was all just a trick, I would be hurt too!
I say just wait a bit.. it honestly sounds like he might have something up his sleeve but didn’t know exact times (of jewelry arriving or something?) and plans changed so he had to make something up?
I dont know, I am sorry you have to deal with it .. but hopefully soon you will look back and laugh, with either a ring on your finger or a necklace around your neck!!
Post # 4
As someone who recieved a Shirt as an Anniversary gift and then a fakeout proposal (see here ), sometimes guys can be thick. I am crossing my fingers, toes, hair, everything that he’s plaing a trick on you
Post # 5
@MissFireFlower: Hahaha that sucks and I would be so upset! (SO’s clues weren’t as straightforward as those ones…definitely sounds like he was toying with you.)
but i did forget to mention how he sent a text from my phone to my two best friends (who I also never talked to about my suspicions) saying “OMG OMG guess what just happened!!!” They thought it was from me since it was from my phone. They both automatically assumed he proposed. So he’s not just messing with me, but with my friends too. Roar.
Post # 6
@MissAmethyst: Did you ask him why he sent that text? That’s a bit mean. I know after our incident we had a long talk about toying with the bull means getting the horns
Post # 7
Wait it out for a bit girl – I have never gotten an anniversary present and for my birthday have gotten a gift card to a local superstore that sells clothes. Last bday all i wanted was a picnic and ended up packing it myself because he was going to just bring subs from subway (knowing that after 4 years a picnic would have been a dream for me).
Post # 8
How long ago did you come back from vacation and find the silverwear? I know it’s hard but I say give it two weeks before you bring it up. That seems like more than enough time to me for something to happen.
If you hadn’t included the part about giving money to his sister then I would say to bring it up now. However, I doubt he was paying his sister for the silverwear because otherwise how did it get to your house and in the drawer?
You could always let your nails go and see if he insists on you painting them again. That to me is a sign that something is happening.
OR you could beg his sister to give you a hint if you get along well with her.
Post # 9
@MissAmethyst: Guys get awful presents. I got a backpack and clothes that were too small from a store I have NEVER shopped in for Christmas. And a water dispenser for valentines day. So I can see why a blender and silverware would be upsetting!!
@Everdeen: +1 I like the letting your nails go idea- its clever!!
Post # 10
LOL, I don’t mean to laugh at your story but all the other ones afterwards with horrible presents from their boyfriends.
If my boyfriend did that, I’d test out the flying ability of each piece of silverware in his direction LOL
It definitelly sounds like there mey be more to this so just wait it out and see what happens. My thoughts are with you and I hope that you do get something special from him. Please keep us updated 🙂
Post # 11
This sounds like a trick he may be up to something. I’d wait it out a bit he’s probably just teasing you, I hope he pulls through and gets you the necklace you want
Post # 12
Hmm. You haven’t, at some point in the past year or so, expressed a desire for new silverware, by any chance?
I got Mr. E. silverware for his birthday and I thought he loved it.
It was really nice and ridiculously expensive and I even saved the receipt so he could return it if he didn’t like it.
Now I wonder if that was a lousy gift.
Post # 13
@Elvis: I think he would have only been disappointed if you’d hinted that it was going to be an engagement ring. 😀
Honestly, I think silverware is a fine gift. After getting my e-ring, I think Fiance is off the hook for being romantic for at least a little while. I’d probably be overjoyed to get fancy silverware because that would mean we would get to register for one more thing we wanted, rather than just what we needed.
Post # 14
@Elvis: silverware would have been a lovely present if he hadn’t promised me jewelry and if i had a dishwasher. it’s just disappointing to me that he knows exactly what i want and knows i would appreciate a romantic gift like jewelry, but he always ends up buying something practical like silverware or a blender.
Still nothing today. :/ thanks for the advice and support you guys :]
@MissFireFlower: don’t worry, i talked to him about how inappropriate and just plain mean that text was.
Oh, and i’m 99.9% sure that if there even is any jewelry, it’s not going to be a ring (well, not an ering at least), because he stopped at an atm to pull out money to give to his sister. Atms have limits on them. I just hope that something is coming to me :/ I’m normally not bratty about gifts; I’m just upset because he promised me jewelry and really was building my hopes up about it. Let’s hope the jewelry is just taking a long time to get here :]