Post # 1
We have gotten comments about our wedding being “quaint”…ummm….excuse me, just because we only want about 50 people, others assume it’s because we can’t afford it…or they make comments about us being married before…anyone else run into this? I have personally removed people from our guest list for this reason…geeez…
We are having a Sunday brunch for 50 people and I don’t feel like it’s quaint. It will be VERY upscale. We just choose to have a few close friends and family…
Post # 3
everyone’s got an opinion. tune them out and do what you and your FI want.
Whether you have a 20 person wedding or a 400 person wedding, someone somewhere will always have something to say about it. so, don’t sweat it.
I love brunch and I love intimate weddings. Can I be on your guestlist? 😉
Post # 4
Sounds lovely. Don’t let other people’s comments get to you.Everyone has different opinions and everyone wants to share. Just smile and go on with what you’re planning. It’ll be great. I get the exact opposite. I’m having a backyard wedding and I constantly get – oh intimate weddings are so great. Yeah they are, but I’m inviting 230 people. I have a big backyard.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t let it bother you. The people who are important to you will be there, and will enjoy themselves. Other people don’t matter, so don’t let their stupid opinions bum you out. Enjoy your day, just the way YOU want it.
Post # 6
Sounds lovely, pp is right. People always have something to say. Just try to forget the comments. Your day will be fabulous.
Post # 7
I bet it’s going to be just lovely! What is it with people feeling like they have to share their opinion when not asked? So rude. Next time, tell them damn right it’s small, quaint, and perfect; it’s exactly how I dreamed of my wedding day. 🙂
Post # 8
Every person planning a wedding hears OPINIONS. Unsolicited OPINIONS. It’s one of the more bizarre aspects of wedding planning, the way people are so openly judgey about it. Anyways, we are having 8 guests so your wedding is quite lavish by my standards 🙂
Post # 9
I’m having a Sunday brunch as well, with 60 invited guests. I’m in love with the idea of having a small intimate wedding, and if anyone doesn’t like it, then I’m 100% fine with that.
Post # 10
@MontfordsGirl: I’d tell all of the unsolicited opinion givers that my wedding was exclusive. If I had a partuclarly mean day, I might even add that it was why they weren’t invited
Enjoy your day with your loved ones and nevermind the evil tongues!
Btw, my SO and I aren’t officially engaged yet but we already know we want a small wedding, about 40 people. Yes, it is because we can’t afford a huge wedding – in part. Mostly, it’s because we genuinely don’t like that many people that much. Tongues will be wagging and I don’t care – at least we’ll be 100% sure who our real friends are!
Post # 11
@maguire82: Thanks, I am in love with the idea as well…it’s on the 3rd anniversary of our first date and brunch dates were some of the most fun for us, still are! We love to go antiquing, etc…I just get tired of explaining myself. I have become prone to saying, “We will be just as married as the idiots who spend thousands…and we want to share time with each guest”. My FSIL had 970 people at her wedding, no kidding! She didn’t know 3/4 of them. I can’t see that being a day of love and romance…We live together, don’t need any gifts so we registered for things during our honeymoon, like buying us a drink, etc. I am not having any showers, etc. so I really don’t see the reason for all the comments.
Post # 12
Thanks, everyone…nice to hear positive thoughts from complete strangers! I hope you all have a fabulous day when it’s your turn!
Post # 13
@MontfordsGirl: yeah, I’ve gotten this a time or two. Because we’re having a 40-person destination wedding. I’ve noticed that the majority of the people making comments like “oh,it’s a shame you couldn’t afford to invite the whole family,” or “yeah, in this economy, I can see why you’re not having an expensive wedding” were not actually invited, so whatevs. I’m actually spending about what I would have spent to host 100 or so guests at a traditional hometown wedding. I’m having a small wedding because I WANT to. It’s died off a bit, but I’ve resolved that the next time someone makes a comment of this sort and it’s obvious that they’re being snide, I’ll tell the truth, which is “actually, we’ve decidedly to only invite people we truly like and 40 was all we could come up with. And as you may have noticed, YOU are nowhere among that number. Now good day, sir.” lol. I crack myself up.
Post # 14
@Overjoyed: I have said that as well….that we only invited the people we truly love and the people who truly support our relationship…in my opinion, if you haven’t spent time with someone in the last year, they aren’t/you aren’t that important. We take the meaning of “friends and family” to heart…we are doing exactly what we want…I am not even wearing ivory or white…I am wearing champagne with BLACK shoes and black accents in my jewelry. It’s who we are. We are spending serious change to go to NYC for a week after and that’s more important to us!
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2014 - Jacksonville Inn
People always seem to have an opinion when it comes to weddings, don’t they? Do what feels right for you, you don’t need to explain that to anyone. We are also having a small wedding with 25-35 guests. A work friend told me a guest list that small is a dinner party, not a wedding. We are having the wedding that is comfortable and fun for us!