(Closed) Simply irritated and not sure haw to handle it.

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

Um tell her that she can scrape it off… that’s what most people do when they don’t like something on their food. Or she can ask the server when she arrives at her seat. Don’t play into this crap Amber- you and I both know what is at the bottom of this- her trying to control something so insignificant but wants to upset you/pester you with one more thing— you do not have to accommodate this request.

Post # 4
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438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

most venues will do special order food if there are dietary restrictions.  I mean, some people do have major health problems that they can’t eat certain things.  Tell her you can have them not put the sauce on it…it shoudln’t be a problem.  If she is just dieting though, thats another story.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

If she’s lactose intolerant, that’s a big issue and she shouldn’t have to scrape the sauce off. Just tell the venue and it should be fine. I’m allergic to nuts and have to ask for new salads and other courses at events like charity dinners, weddings, etc. all the time. It’s almost never been an issue. I know she made you mad about other stuff, but this seems like a real issue. Just don’t let it get to you. Email your venue and be done with it.

 

Have fun! 

Post # 8
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1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

You really have two choices: either ignore her request and risk her causing a "scene" at your wedding, or tell the venue that she has an allergy and let them put the sauce on the side, thus avoiding the issue she may cause.

Even if is isn’t really a food issue, you have to choose your battles.  I have a cousin that is seriously allergic to everything and she wants to bring her own food to the wedding, but my venue said she still has to make a food selection.  My choices are vegetarian, chicken, or beef.  She chose the filet mignon!  I called her and explained to her that if she isn’t going to eat it she should order the veggie meal because it costs me less. She said she didn’t even think about it when she made her selection!  We changed it for her. I found out later that her daugher did the same thing, so now we are changing her meal.  Some people really don’t understand how much of a pain things can be. I mean, how hard is it just to select the veggie choice when you are going to bring your own food anyway? 

Sorry, got a little off topic.  The point is that real allergies or not, you have to decide if you want her to have a reason to cause a problem at your wedding.  You can’t univite her.

Post # 9
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378 posts
Helper bee

Do you really think she’s even going to show up? But, from your description, she probably would, complain that she’s not front and center and then find some other ways to bother you the rest of the day. Good luck with that.

I’d say just mention it to the venue, if they can do it, great. If not, too bad for her. She’ll complain either way, I’m sure. 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

wow. she is ridiculous. she claims to be lactose intolerant, but obnoxiously eats dairy all the time and pulls out the "milk card" only when it suits her.

i bet her constipation happens regardless of her milk intake and most likely from a poor diet with too little fiber!

i understand dietary restrictions (i’m vegan) and you will not see me eating meat when i feel like it and making a big fuss another time. i always eat vegetarian.

she can’t stick to her claims and seems like she enjoys being a difficult person. does she need that much attention. 

i wouldn’t even worry about it anymore. my vote is to let her scrape it off. look at all your time she has already killed.

Post # 12
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60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

if you could only un invite her!

Post # 13
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323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

give her A PIECE OF CAKE instead as her main course.

 

 

Post # 14
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44 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2018

The spiteful side of me says screw her and have them put extra sauce, but you have taken the higher ground and invited her. Continue to take the higher ground and have your venue take the sauce off her plate.  I am sure your venue will understand.

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