Post # 1
Sorry I am blowing up the posts today, first day I feel normal and have had a chance to get computer time. It’s amazing how many questions now come to mind after the baby, I thought I was all ready but guess not!
SO this is a wierd question. DS was born 10 days ago, we had a 5 day stay in the hospital, my Darling Husband stayed with me all day and night. When we got home and since then, if I wake DH in the night to help with a feeding or change, he is half awake and half not, and will jump up and frantically search for the baby on the bed. The first night he did this he sent us both into a frantic mess because he made it seem like he put the baby on the bed so we were ripping up the covers searching for him only to then look over in the bassinet to see him there. I thought we were both losing it and it got me really freaked out.
The next night I woke him and he cradled the pillow and started talking to it like it was the baby until I had to say my Darling Husband name a few times to get him to fully wake up and then he gets confused. He has done this everynight since and it’s freaking me out. He remembers doing it the next day and doesn’t know why he is doing it either. My Darling Husband has never been a sleep walker, he isn’t a deep sleeper but I’m also a very light sleeper so it;s hard to compare.
Does this sound totally crazy??
Post # 3
Does he normally sleep walk or have any type of anxietal issues? Its okay to be amazingly tired and disoriented as new paretns, but do be careful with your husband, as he seems to be having some issues!
Post # 4
Nah, we all do strange things when there’s a big change in our lives. Sounds like he’s exhausted and stressed out over the new baby.
Post # 5
Not only did my husband do this, at first, I did, too! 🙂 It’s totally normal and probably due to the sleep deprivation that comes with being a new parent. It can be a little scary, but it’s nothing to be worried about. Next time, just try to wake him fully by asking him to physically get out of bed, walk around the room, answer some questions, etc…
Post # 6
Sounds crazy but maybe he’s just paranoid because he is a first time parent and has some anxiety?
Post # 7
I think its preety normal. I’m a really deep sleeper and I’ve gotten up and chnaged pj’s in the night. Fiance says he can have whole converstaions with me and then when I say something really weird he’ll realize I’m still kinda sleeping.
Post # 8
He has had no prior sleep walking issues or anxeity issues, he is actuallu super laid back and calm. Though yes we are sleep deprived. Makes me feel better to see others went through this!
Post # 9
lol my husband will probably end up coddling and soothing our pillows as well.
I guess welcome to parenthood!
Post # 10
@ams12: The poor man sounds exhausted. I think you should take care of the baby for a few weeks until he gets back to normal. lol
Post # 11
OMG this is sooo me! I have done this several times now. I wake up in the middle of the night before muchkin wakes me up over the baby monitor and start freaking out because I think he is in bed with us and then he is not! The first time I did this I totally freaked out (and remember doing this!) I ripped the covers apart threw the lights on and raced over to muchkins room only to find him peacefully sleeping in his cradle! When I sore up and down he had been in bed with us!
Post # 12
Not baby-related, but my Fiance did similar things during his (crazy, stressful) senior finals in college. He was a comp sci major and would hear his alarm clock going off in the mornings, and think it was a computer and he had to write a program to turn it off. So he’d be pushing all kinds of buttons on it trying to type things/program it 😛 He actually almost missed a final once because of this — in his “programming” the alarm clock he turned the alarm completely off, and then fell right back asleep! I think it’s pretty normal to do that kind of thing. Your husband is in a new baby frenzy, so he wakes up and his subconscious brain immediately tells him BABY OMG TAKE CARE OF THE BABY but his conscious mind is still half-asleep so he can’t fully comprehend what he’s doing or what he actually needs to do.
Post # 13
@Kant: hahahha! programming the alarm clock! Funny thing – Darling Husband was a computer engineering major, and one of his com sci assignments was to write a program to create an alarm clock (on the computer)
To the OP – sounds like you both need some more sleep! Maybe get grandma/aunt/friend or other experienced mother to come over and babysit for a couple hours so you can get a nap!
Post # 14
@nickels: I do this. I take of pjs or turn them around. I flip the duvet upside down and turn it 180 degree. I too can have full on conversations whilst partially asleep. With my ex I used to tell him to fu– off and I’m always scared I’ll say that again.
@ams12: I wouldn’t start worrying just yet. Congrats on the birth of your son.
Post # 15
Not baby related but my husband wakes up thinking there is someone in the house all the time! It’s just a lack of sleep / having the baby on his mind. I’m also guessing you now have different sleeping pattern. Don’t worry about it, things will settle down shortly.
Post # 16
I’ll periodically think there’s a spider in the bed, shake the bedding, get up and turn on the light to find it. I only really wake up when Darling Husband is blinded by the sudden light. He’s probably dreaming/thinking about the baby and only half awake. Next time he has night duty, shake him a few times and say his name before telling him the baby needs feeding/changing/whatever. I bet if he’s more awake when he finds out what he needs to do, he won’t have these weird sleep reactions.