(Closed) Since We're on the Subject of BJ's, What is a BJ?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: What is a BJ to you and What would you do in my situation?
    A BJ is any type of oral stimulation of the whoo haa : (115 votes)
    39 %
    A BJ is when oral stimulation directly results in climax : (25 votes)
    9 %
    If it were me, I'd keep practicing and hope to get used to his flavor : (24 votes)
    8 %
    If it were me, I'd tell him how I feel about his flavor and risk hurting his feelings : (61 votes)
    21 %
    If it were me, I'd first try using flavored lube and then take it from there : (33 votes)
    11 %
    Something Else? Pray, tell! : (5 votes)
    2 %
    Different men taste different to me : (25 votes)
    9 %
    All men taste the same : (5 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    that’s like saying it isn’t sex when the penis goes in the vagina, but it is if either/or finishes. Nuh uh. A BJ is penis in mouth. Also, I think it’s easier for them to give women oral since like you said, they don’t have jaw issues. Tell him to try it for an hour and see how his jaw talks. Oh right..

    Post # 4
    3078 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Have you tried to get him to eat more pineapple/sweet things?  That changes the flavor. 

    Post # 5
    7901 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    If your mouth or any part of it interacts with his penis, it’s a BJ. You’ve still had sex when he stick it in your vajayajay whether or not he finishes! I would tell him you don’t like the taste and see if he can alter his diet and lifestyle some if he really wants you to swallow. For us, I personally find it’s easier for my Darling Husband to climax if I get him almost there and he finishes himself off and he can let the goo fly wherever he likes if it makes him happy.

    Post # 6
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    In your specific situation I wouldn’t have used the excuses you did. I would have said no, I’m sorry I do not feel comfortable with jizz in my mouth. Make up whatever reason you can I feel violated, disresspected and used by it and it makes me uncomfortable.

    Can you offer to let him finish on you (face, butt, boobs) instead?

    Post # 7
    265 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Hmm… how to put this… if you make sure that he’s in the back of your mouth and you swallow right away, you won’t taste much besides maybe an aftertaste. So I’d practice that. And using your hand a lot, which saves your jaw. And if you start making lots of pineapple-y deserts, maybe he won’t notice? : p

    Also, I guess I think of BJ’s as being a term for the act by itself rather than just oral as part of foreplay or something. That just seems like semantics, though.

    Post # 8
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    And he’s wrong a BJ, is a BJ weiner in mouth. Finishing in mouth is a “BJ with a finish in mouth.”

    Post # 9
    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @mrsSonthebeach:  “If your mouth or any part of it interacts with his penis, it’s a BJ.”


    I don’t really know how to advise on the taste issue though.  I really don’t taste Darling Husband when I give him a BJ to completion (we typically just use as part of foreplay) because he comes so far back in my mouth, it just goes straight down.  If it isn’t on your tongue, you aren’t going to taste it.

    Post # 10
    3232 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’m in a similiar boat but I told my Fiance that I’m not crazy about the taste period.  Not just his but semen in general. He’s OK if I spit it out but not in front of him but I’ve yet to go back to doing that.  We also discussed him letting it go on my chest ie breast but have yet to do it yet because I rather just swallow it.  But if that’s something you’re comfortable with maybe you should discuss it with him and try it that way.  

    Post # 13
    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    if you have his dick in your mouth you are allowed to dispose of his spunk any way you please. He should just be happy you’re letting him finish in your mouth.

    (if I was REALLY bitchy I’d say snowball him and see how he likes his taste. that would shut him up real fast, I bet).

    Post # 14
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    You gotta tell him that it tastes bad.  If there’s something he could do that would result in more blowjobs, I bet he’d do it.  🙂  Make sure he knows it’s not him, it’s the taste, and you want to want to, but he has to meet you half way. 

    We have a rule.  He gets as many blowjobs as he wants – limited to one per shower, within 4 hours of said shower, unless his balls have become sweaty at any point since that same shower.  I can deal with a little bit of ball funk, like half a normal day’s worth – but not a full day of running around or any kind of real ballsweat.  Just hose ’em off.  I get a lot of “I’M CLEAN!” 

    Luckily?  My husband’s stuff doesn’t taste much but salty.  He wasn’t into me swallowing it for the longest time, but he can finally let it fly.  I can’t stand to have it in my mouth for that long so I just swallow to get it over with and then go brush my teeth. 

    Post # 16
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    @bebefly:  there is no part of your comment that I didn’t love!

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