Post # 1
Some years back my man and I had a talk and he said he wanted me to go down on him more. I was completely shocked and said, something like “what are you talking about, I give you BJ’s all the time!” Well, he let out that he dosn’t consider oral during foreplay as a real BJ; Its only a BJ if he gets to finish. I then said something like
“Gee, well, I guess usually don’t finish you off because it takes a long time, my jaw gets sore, and honestly I’d rather have sex.” He said
” If it were you, I’d do it till my jaw fell off to make you happy.”
I felt bad here because he is very giving in that department but here’s the thing; it’s really not my favorite thing. I let it happen because he seems to get into it and sure its okay, but I could go forever without it. Not so much for Fiance. He says finishing in the mouth BJ’s are important to him, not better than sex, but different. He wants me to just accost him and blow him from time to time. He thinks spitting is not really sexy :/
So here’s the conflict. His fluid tastes really bitter and bad. Gag inducing bad and I read that bitter alcohol, coffee, and smoking can effect the flavor. He loves all of these things. I have tried pushing him far back, holding it in my mouth til I go to the bathroom, and spitting back it out ala porno, but I’ve yet to acquire the taste. Plus, the dread of the coming emmission makes the whole experience borderline traumatic so its hard to really get into it. I like the act of the BJ but really don’t want to swallow his semen as is. I want to just tell him that the flavor is bad but I don’t want to hurt his feelings. I would like to bring up using flavored lube, drinking pineapple juice or cutting back on the coffee, scotch, and smokes but I think he’ll take it the wong way. What do you guys think?
Post # 3
that’s like saying it isn’t sex when the penis goes in the vagina, but it is if either/or finishes. Nuh uh. A BJ is penis in mouth. Also, I think it’s easier for them to give women oral since like you said, they don’t have jaw issues. Tell him to try it for an hour and see how his jaw talks. Oh right..
Post # 4
Have you tried to get him to eat more pineapple/sweet things? That changes the flavor.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
If your mouth or any part of it interacts with his penis, it’s a BJ. You’ve still had sex when he stick it in your vajayajay whether or not he finishes! I would tell him you don’t like the taste and see if he can alter his diet and lifestyle some if he really wants you to swallow. For us, I personally find it’s easier for my Darling Husband to climax if I get him almost there and he finishes himself off and he can let the goo fly wherever he likes if it makes him happy.
Post # 6
In your specific situation I wouldn’t have used the excuses you did. I would have said no, I’m sorry I do not feel comfortable with jizz in my mouth. Make up whatever reason you can I feel violated, disresspected and used by it and it makes me uncomfortable.
Can you offer to let him finish on you (face, butt, boobs) instead?
Post # 7
Hmm… how to put this… if you make sure that he’s in the back of your mouth and you swallow right away, you won’t taste much besides maybe an aftertaste. So I’d practice that. And using your hand a lot, which saves your jaw. And if you start making lots of pineapple-y deserts, maybe he won’t notice? : p
Also, I guess I think of BJ’s as being a term for the act by itself rather than just oral as part of foreplay or something. That just seems like semantics, though.
Post # 8
And he’s wrong a BJ, is a BJ weiner in mouth. Finishing in mouth is a “BJ with a finish in mouth.”
Post # 9
@mrsSonthebeach: “If your mouth or any part of it interacts with his penis, it’s a BJ.”
I don’t really know how to advise on the taste issue though. I really don’t taste Darling Husband when I give him a BJ to completion (we typically just use as part of foreplay) because he comes so far back in my mouth, it just goes straight down. If it isn’t on your tongue, you aren’t going to taste it.
Post # 10
I’m in a similiar boat but I told my Fiance that I’m not crazy about the taste period. Not just his but semen in general. He’s OK if I spit it out but not in front of him but I’ve yet to go back to doing that. We also discussed him letting it go on my chest ie breast but have yet to do it yet because I rather just swallow it. But if that’s something you’re comfortable with maybe you should discuss it with him and try it that way.
Post # 11
@vmec: Yes, we’ve done that and when we do I sigh with relief. I still know he’s just dying for the mouth finish.
Post # 12
@DoctorAndDoctor: Yes, so far the far back thing is the best way for me but even the after taste is so hard to handle. Maybe I’m a baby but I just don’t want to tell him that my other BF’s did not taste like him. Oooh. Editing the poll!
Post # 13
if you have his dick in your mouth you are allowed to dispose of his spunk any way you please. He should just be happy you’re letting him finish in your mouth.
(if I was REALLY bitchy I’d say snowball him and see how he likes his taste. that would shut him up real fast, I bet).
Post # 14
You gotta tell him that it tastes bad. If there’s something he could do that would result in more blowjobs, I bet he’d do it. 🙂 Make sure he knows it’s not him, it’s the taste, and you want to want to, but he has to meet you half way.
We have a rule. He gets as many blowjobs as he wants – limited to one per shower, within 4 hours of said shower, unless his balls have become sweaty at any point since that same shower. I can deal with a little bit of ball funk, like half a normal day’s worth – but not a full day of running around or any kind of real ballsweat. Just hose ’em off. I get a lot of “I’M CLEAN!”
Luckily? My husband’s stuff doesn’t taste much but salty. He wasn’t into me swallowing it for the longest time, but he can finally let it fly. I can’t stand to have it in my mouth for that long so I just swallow to get it over with and then go brush my teeth.
Post # 15
@NovaRising: Know what you mean. I have tried to casually go to the bathroom to spit to save his “sexy fantasy” but I feel so silly
Post # 16
@bebefly: there is no part of your comment that I didn’t love!