- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I got engaged a year ago, right before I started a pretty major job. I knew that it would be a short amount of time until I was swmaped, so we jumped on the planning bandwagon right away. We got everything locked down- the venue, the photographer, the band, the caterer, the dress- within a couple of months even though our wedding was 2 years out. It was great; we were pumped… and then in the last 3 weeks a lot has happened.
The trigger: (precursor– no judging or not nice comments please) We have a couple friend that just recently got engaged. They have booked their wedding at our same venue 4 weeks after ours. Also, her dress is identical to mine, just 2 years newer. And everything I pin on Pinterest she pins too (dumb I know, but no judging, remember?). First- I want to outline a couple of things. 1) I’m definitely not mad. At all. 2) She had no idea what my dress looked like when she bought hers 3) about 30-40% of our guests will be at their wedding. Even though I’m not mad, to say it doesn’t bug me would be a lie. I don’t know what my deal is- I know mine is first, but I can’t help but want to have “my own” wedding. (Again, I am fully aware of how stupid I sound).
The dress: I had been having dress doubts for awhile– not major but just some concerns that it would look shiny in pictures (strange fear). Long story short- I bought a new dress. It’s very similar to my old one (and still similar to hers) but in organza *swoon*. (PS- let me know if you want to buy a Mori Lee 4524 🙂 ). Moral of the story: Dress- changed
The venue: I’m pretty sold on NOT having our wedding at the original venue (a barn), so I’ve been looking at new ones. (We’d only be out a $100 deposit) We are down to two venues:
1) A different barn in the same town: a bit higher end, about $500 more, same vibe/direction. Main concern: when I spoke with the lady she was REALLY rude. Like REALLY rude. It could have just been a bad day for her though…
2) A rustic loft downtown in our hometown with the ceremony at a local park. Much cheaper than having it at the barn (rental costs lower, decorating costs lower, no need to rent a shuttle), better acoustics for our rock n roll band, more convenient for guests. Main concern: It’s a total change in direction from what I have been envisioning since we booked our venue (we haven’t purchased anything that wouldn’t go yet but just mentally it’s a huge shift)
The photographer: we booked her and I was over the moon. SOO excited. We had our engagement pictures and they turned out really nice (main complaint is that she wanted us to be “artsy” and we just wanted to have fun). She shoots barn and outdoor weddings almost exclusively, so I’m not so sure about the downtown loft and how that would work out with her… Also, she’s gotten really popular, so a lot of her weddings look the same. It’s not nearly as creative as a year ago and it’s getting a bit more stylized and less photojournalistic– but the quality is still outstanding. THEN I found a new photographer. She’s great!! She shoots with the same kind of style- focusing on the light and natural vibe. She charges $650, where our photography package is just over $2,000. We’ve put $500 down… I’m not sure what to do.
Regarding all of this my mom, FI and MOH think i’ve gone looney and should keep everything as-is. Part of me thinks I’m using this as an opportunity to change to a more classy direction. My fear is that the “rustic chic” wedding is super trendy, and I may regret it later? I don’t know.
So what do you think?
A- Have I lost my mind?
B- Which venue would you go for?
C- Which photographer would you pick? Would you stay put? If you’d change, how would you break up with your photographer?