(Closed) Since when did eloping require planning?

posted 8 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I wonder if it’s a paperwork issue- sometimes things like marriage licenses take time to process?

That and wedding industrial complex is gripping the nation and a lot of people think things need to be frou-frou. >.< errlack.

Also, maybe today’s “eloping” is something along the lines of “mini destination wedding”. Who knows…

Post # 4
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

I think a lot of times people are referring to courthouse weddings as eloping.  The definition is changing.

Post # 5
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My friend eloped and although she didn’t plan, she hired a planner to do it all for her. All they did was show up in the Caribbean in wedding attire and the planner/venue handled the rest.  I get what you’re saying… it baffles me too.

Post # 6
2280 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I noticed the same thing when I started to look around the blogosphere. All the pretty pictures online give us a skewed picture of reality, of course, but the effort put into elopements/courthouse weddings definitely caught my eye. The times they are a-changin.

Post # 7
1569 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@sapphirelady15 I think you have the right idea in that the definition of “elope” is changing with the growing trend in weddings toward individuality and uniqueness. Everyone is trying to have such a different wedding than has ever been had before that an entire new subset has evolved for those who think of their weddings as being so small that they aren’t really weddings in the traditional sense. Makes you wonder if there ought to be a new word, so that we can distinguish among those who actually just run off and surprise everyone. (My grandmother ran off from her family and then-boyfriend and married my grandfather in secret when she was 16 years old, then went home and didn’t even tell anyone about it right away. THAT’s eloping!)

Post # 8
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

“(My grandmother ran off from her family and then-boyfriend and married my grandfather in secret when she was 16 years old, then went home and didn’t even tell anyone about it right away. THAT’s eloping!)”


awww, that sounds like something you’d see in a movie- very romantic and definitely eloping! πŸ™‚


And yes, maybe there should be a new word…hmm…

Post # 9
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

we’re “eloping”…. i think many people might use that word maybe because they aren’t inviting people to the actual wedding… we’re “eloping” on 10/10/10 at 10 in the morning… with my brother and his brother as our witnesses πŸ™‚ then we’re having a party that night to announce it to everyone πŸ™‚ less drama πŸ™‚

myself i love planning and making lists and stuff… so even though we’re not having a wedding and needing lists of things to do… i still do them LOL but little lists, like things i want to get done/purchase before then like shoes and something for my hair and decoration for that nights party.

I guess we’re not really eloping as such but we’re just not telling anyone πŸ™‚ WHICH IS SUPER HARD LOL!!!!!!!!!

Post # 10
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I like to tell people we are doing a planned elopement.  Cuz we are running away to StLucia get married all by ourselves without any guests.  Its just been 1.5yrs in planning, simply cuz we had to save the money.  I would have went the day he proposed if the money was there.  So its not a true elopement, but it gets the point across clearer when I try explaining to people that no one is invited.

Post # 11
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My grandparents eloped with my grandfather’s brother (double wedding) back in 1927. Both families were huge and dirt poor, so they didn’t have the resources for a ‘proper’ wedding. They ‘ran away’ by getting into their wedding dresses and boarding the Greyhound bus to the city (so…pretty much everyone knew when they saw them getting on the bus), and my grandma told her mother the plans before hand.  So I think there was often a wee bit of planning in the past too. 

Post # 12
531 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We are eloping this Sept to Colorado, just the two of us, nobody knows and won’t know until after the wedding. We will spend two weeks in Colorado, stress free and with a lot more money in our pockets. πŸ™‚ I’m still wearing a gorgeous dress and he will be wearing a kilt outfit and we will have professional photography and we are using an elopement company.

From Wikipedia:

To elope, most literally, merely means to run away.[1] More specifically, elopement is often used to refer to a marriage conducted in sudden and secretive fashion, usually involving hurried flight away from one’s place of residence together with one’s beloved with the intention of getting married.

Only we are not doing it so suddenly. Haha!



From the dictionary:

1 : to slip away : escape <might have mistaken him for…some scarecrow eloped from a cornfield — Washington Irving>
2 a : to run away from one’s husband with a lover b : to run away secretly with the intention of getting married usually without parental consent

The dictionary doesn’t say anything about it being sudden so I guess by the dictionary’s definition we are still eloping. Tongue out

Post # 13
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

there’s a true life on mtv about eloping. the couples on it also talk about how they didn’t expect to have to plan so much, because they had to get a marriage licence, buy wedding rings, etc. which still gets pretty expensive.

Post # 14
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you go by the traditional definition that most people agree with and understand it to be, it doesn’t require planning since it’s done secretively on the spur of the moment. However everyone anymore wants to change the definition of everything to something other than what it is actually known for being.

Post # 15
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t know that I would say that I eloped over the weekend, but I did get married last weekend, 6 months before the wedding.  My state has a 5 day waiting period for the marriage license and we had to have 2 witnesses along with an officiant.  It did take a bit of planning to find a time that worked for everyone.  So we couldn’t have just woke up and said, hey, let’s get married today.

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