Since when do guests dress in your wedding colors?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with you. If you are not in the wedding party or immediate family (like MOB, MOG) you should actually avoid the colors if you know what they are.

I would not appreciate it at all. How is my wedding party supposed to stand out if the other women are wearing the same color? I would not be flattered .

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t think this is a bad thing. Your family/guests are trying to coordinate, to feel a part of your event. I would think you would be touched? 

Post # 5
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Honey bee

I have only met two people who have ever showed up at a wedding in their colors and were not part of the wedding party at all, but they are definitely the eccentric minority and don’t care about following etiquette or having any manners. Yes it is rude, and most people agree, to wear wedding colors when you are a guest, not an attendant.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

you should actually avoid the colors if you know what they are

three quarters of my wardrobe is blue (one of OP’s colours) – its a pretty popular colour and i would not go out and buy a new dress in a different colour just because the BM’s dresses are also blue

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@eloping: There are many different shades of blue. If I were concerned I would find out what shade of blue the bride is using and avoid that shade. That still leaves you 99% of your dress wardrobe.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

My colors are brown and baby blue!!  We’re Color Twins! 🙂

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

@julies1949: to be honest i wouldnt even think to ask someone what colour they are using and then change my outfit – even if i knew it was blue i still wouldnt ask them what shade and change my outfit. its really not that big a deal, people are looking at the bride and party not the guests. 

i remember one thread where the birde was upset the mom was wearing a colour similar to the BM’s – i thought it was normal to dial moms colours in a little bit to match so i didnt understand the problem then either

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My colors are red and purple and I have my mom, FI’s mom and his stepmom all wearing purple. I have other people possibly wearing those colors too and I am okay with that. I think bridal party will stand out because they will be up with us at the altar and head table.

 

As long as no one else wears white, I am okay. Smile

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: I think they’re just excited for you! You can take it anyway you like!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree that it is a little weird to go out of your way to dress in wedding colors if you are just a guest, not family or bridal party. I’ve never heard of that before.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

my Bridesmaid or Best Man are in black dresses with red shoes and Groomsmen have red vests and ties. I know most people will wear black dresses. At first it bothered me but really its just a color i got over it 🙂 I mean chances are someone is going to have a favorite party dress in the color of your bridal party and unless you are willing to give them some money to buy a new one (I ALMOST did this to my mother 😛 ) you cant do much about it.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Actually the last wedding I went to as a guest we were all asked to wear green. She was having 23 guests and no bridal party and it made for the nicest pictures. (I love green so I was thrilled to have to buy a dress in that color!) But  I wouldn’t do it unless asked.

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