- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Bees, I need to get something off my chest.
Why do so many people assume, that just because a couple cannot afford to get married when they get engaged, that they shouldn’t get married at all? This to me is absolutely absurd.
Since when is there a time limit on being engaged? People act like you HAVE to start planning your wedding right after he proposes. I really don’t get it! Has no one heard of a long engagement before??????
Me and my Fiance didn’t have money when he proposed to me. He didn’t have a ring. SO WHAT! This doesn’t mean that we didn’t want to marry each other and that a couple years down the road we couldn’t get married. He just knew that he wanted to be with me forever so he proposed, what’s so wrong with that? We NOW do have the means to pay for the wedding, the ring, etc. and we are getting married in 3 months. But we’ve been engaged 2 years now, and some people said when we got engaged that we shouldn’t be engaged because we couldn’t afford to get married.
Correction: we couldn’t afford to have a wedding at that time or get a ring at that time. Our feelings would remain the same years down the line, and they have, and he could afford a ring for me later on, which is now.
This just irritates the living crap out of me. I know a lot of couples, young and old that have had long engagements and ended up getting married later on. A lot of those old couples are still happily married. I know some people who have gotten engaged, were engaged 6 months, got married, then divorced a year later.
I think people rush into it way too early and then give hate to those who decide to wait, whatever the reason may be.
Me being engaged to my Fiance for 2 years, DOES NOT make our relationship any less valuable than a couple who gets engaged and gets married in 10 days. Being engaged and together for a longer period of time just allows me to get to know my Fiance better, and allows us time to think about what kind of wedding we want, how we are paying for it, etc.
Sorry if I offended anyone when I talked about short engagements as well, I didn’t mean anything bad when I talked about them (my mother and father were engaged 2 weeks, and married 35 years (: …) So really, I didn’t mean to offend at all.
Anyway, I just had to get that off my chest. It’s just appauling to me. If you’re going to say “to each their own”, then live by your words and stop judging others on what they want to do with THEIR lives.
that is all.