(Closed) Sing at my own wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Music
Post # 3
911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

Funny that you posted this today. We were just talking about this last night.

I am a singer (musical theatre performer) by profession, and Fiance wants me to sing at our wedding.

I have to be honest, I feel really weird about it. I don’t want to. I feel like the whole day is about us, and me, and then to get up and sing? Well, to me that feels kind of like work. Wink And narcissistic. (sorry, I’m not calling YOU a narcissist, thats just how it would feel to me if I did it.)

But if you are all for it, I would wait until the dancing part of the reception, well after the toasts but before the cake cutting.

And your song choice is lovely. 🙂

Post # 5
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t see a problem with it 🙂 I know several people who sang for their new husband/wife at their wedding. One was done during the ceremony, the other done during the reception. It’s a cute idea!

Post # 6
911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

@inky_1:  I say, do what makes you happy! 

When I’m working, I can’t drink (or eat sugar) because it affects my voice, so I just know that I will be miserable waiting to sing so that I can have a drink. Or eat. 

Anyway, enough about me.

Sing your song!! 

Post # 7
1748 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t sing, but I just wonder if on your wedding day you’ll want to do this- like, I understand the meaning and the importance, but this sounds kind of stressful and to add that on top of all the stress you’ll be experiencing that day seems like a lot. Just something to think about!!

Post # 9
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I honestly have been thinking of doing the same for my husband. I dont sing professionally but he loves it when i do sing. And everyone in my family sings, ive just always been the artistic one and have never really sang in front of anyone. But i have been playing with the thought for a while now. Im thinking of singing Mumford and Sons “I will wait” not as fast as they sing it but ore of an acoustic slow way. Fingers crossed

Post # 10
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I thought about singing for my fiance at our wedding as well, but I decided against it. 

For me, it was because I didn’t want one more thing to worry about on that day and I knew that I would just cry all the way through it.  So, my friend will be singing at our wedding and I will be singing a song for him at the rehearsal dinner instead.  For me it made more sense to do it in a more intimate setting. 

But, if you feel compelled to sing for your fiance at the wedding….more power to you.  Do what you feel is right for you. 

Post # 12
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m of two minds.

Normally, I find performances like this very awkward. Like, it’s going to end up being that YouTube video where the bride sings herself down the aisle (and she wasn’t very good anyway). My cousin sang at a family gathering because she was auditioning for a school play once, and it was awful and awkward (I have no idea how she ever got into her school choir).

However, FI’s cousin serenaded his new wife at the reception. He sang a Red Hot Chili Peppers song while he played the guitar (and had some old band mates back him up). I thought it was great–it was very well done and was very sweet.

If you’re going to do it, I would do it at the reception.

Post # 14
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you’re comfortable doing it….then I guess it’d be alright for the reception.  


Weddings are stressful in their own right without having to add any pressure of having to perform in front of the most important people of your life.


I’ve watched many many vids on youtube where people sang at either their wedding or reception.  A lot of them had decent to pretty good voices, but the sound equipment they used was pretty mediocre (either that or they didn’t get enough practice time using it) and that can make a really big difference.


Its not up to me though, but I know I prefer that the B & G not perform at their own wedding. Sometimes its great, sometimes its just awkward for everyone.

Post # 15
510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have been to two weddings where the bride sang.  First one, it was a bit cringy, weird song choice (jazzy version of “My Favourite Things”) and her voice was average.  Second time, she is an amazing singer (she currently has a lead part in the West End – UK version of Broadway), and it was absolutely brilliant!

Basically, I think if you are great singer it would be awesome.  If you are average, maybe sing for him in private on your honeymoon!

Post # 16
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m back and forth on the idea. Definitely NOT ceremony, but you could easily work it in to the reception. I think if you have an actual band, it wouldn’t seem as awkward, or karaoke. NOT saying it wouldn’t be wonderful, but it’s teetering on the line, depending on the flow of things. 

I do say go for it, do what feels right, and it sounds like you can very easily pull it off, vocally, so it wouldn’t be a train wreck…unless you’re on your 5th liquor drink. 

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