Post # 1
Fiance comes from a very musical family, however he gets super nervous performing, has a hard time remembering lyrics, etc. He typically does harmony for his brothers when they get together to sing. We sing in the car like crazy together (one thing I love about us) and he convinced me two years ago to “open” with him at a concert his brother was performing at. I’m not at all trained or anything. We did a fairly safe song together and I was so nervous that I never want to perform again although everyone said we did awesome and keeps asking us when we’ll perform together again.
My mom didn’t get to see that performance so she REALLY wants us to do something at my wedding. I know Fiance and I would both be SOOO nervous about it I’m not sure it’s worth it. The cool part is our DJ said he can record any of our family’s performances for us. We would do it at the reception so we’d have a few drinks in our system so maybe we’d be more brave…but that might mean we’d also not do as well too. I’m worried about talking all day and not having a voice left, too.
But I’m also worried we’ll never have another opportunity like this so I don’t want to regret not doing it either!!
We do have the option of pre-recording the song and Fiance mentioned maybe we could dance to that version for our first dance, but I think that’s kind of weird…dancing to your own song??
Post # 3
I would not do it. And this is coming from a former vocal performance major.
WAYYYYYYYYYY too much stress, like… way too much. Maybe recording it earlier and dancing to it, but I do not recommend attempting to sing at your own wedding.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t do it at the wedding. Maybe at the RD?
However, I did see an episode of 4 weddings where the bride sang to her groom as she was coming down the aisle. She sang like for a minute and then the choir took over. WHEW! Everyone was crying! I was crying, she was crying, he was crying, it was just a mess!
Or you could do a Glee like ceremony and do a song as an entrance to the ceremony. That would be fun.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t do it. I had a bunch of people ask if I was going to sing at our wedding and I was like, “Uh, NO. My wedding is not one of my performances. It’s about Darling Husband and I getting married.”
Post # 6
I would not. Wedding days are already so nervous don’t do this to yourself. Save it for another occasion – what about rehearsal dinner that may have a small crowd?
Post # 7
I’m a singer, I can sing hanging upside down, eating a bowl of cereal while juggling fire and I didn’t sing at my own wedding. There is way too much going on, and if you are already nervous it’s just going to make you dread the day.
My opinion is unless you are performing at a professional level no one wants to hear you warble through “I’ve had the time of my life”.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t, mostly b/c of the nerves, but also I think it would be a little odd to break out in a performance (esp since it would be a serious performance, not a fun lightheartded goofy one.)
Post # 9
@KristenGotMarried: Agreed! From another singer let me say you have enough on your plate!!! Just sit back, relax and enjoy…don’t take on more.
@flamingred: LOL! That would be one hell of a concert!